Loveless Marriages

Childless people who stay in loveless marriages are at least not hurting anybody but themselves, so if they choose to be miserable, that’s their right. People with children who stay in loveless marriages, however, destroy their children’s chance at having happy, fulfilled personal lives when they grow up. The children grow up, observing as their basic model of romantic relationships a boring, miserable marriage. Of course, they will end up perpetuating the model because that is all they know. It is profoundly wrong and immoral to inflict this damage on children for the sake of convenience.

5 comments on “Loveless Marriages

  1. Adults who marry, have children, and then abandon said children to one parent – usually an impoverished mother – to bring up in poverty are selfish worthless human beings who think only about themselves. They are beneath contempt.

    • A divorce doesn’t necessarily translate into the abandonment of children. I have two friends who are divorced fathers, and they are constantly with their children.

      If one doesn’t want to spend time with one’s own children, that person wouldn’t do it, divorce or no divorce.

  2. I remember my parents fighting and my mother threatening a divorce. Unfortunately it wasn’t at all easy within that far right-wing social context. My mother and father stayed together, but her personality was suppressed.

  3. “Childless people who stay in loveless marriages are at least not hurting anybody but themselves, so if they choose to be miserable, that’s their right.”

    Never mind. According to your favorite columnist, Ross Douthat, in his NYT opinion piece entitled “More Babies, Please!” last Saturday your patriotic duty is to close your eyes and think of England or in this case America and breed like bunnies because “Today’s babies are tomorrow’s taxpayers and workers and entrepreneurs, and relatively youthful populations speed economic growth and keep spending commitments affordable.” And, of course, less interest in having children leads to homosexuality.

    “Finally, there’s been a broader cultural shift away from a child-centric understanding of romance and marriage. In 1990, 65 percent of Americans told Pew that children were “very important” to a successful marriage; in 2007, just before the current baby bust, only 41 percent agreed. (That trend goes a long way toward explaining why gay marriage, which formally severs wedlock from sex differences and procreation, has gone from a nonstarter to a no-brainer for so many people.)”

    http://www.nytimes.com/2012/12/02/opinion/sunday/douthat-the-birthrate-and-americas-future.html?_r=0

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