Grumpiness Pays Off

I’m reading Facebook updates posted by a long-lost friend. Whenever she posts a photo of her son, people respond with literally dozens of comments about how the boy “needs a sister.”

The poor woman published at least 10 comments just this week (and it’s only Wednesday) stating that they are perfectly fine just as they are and no new baby is forthcoming. Her comments are becoming very terse and annoyed, and I don’t blame her. People persist, however. (The son is 13, so you can imagine how long she’s been hearing this).

This woman has the nicest, kindest, sunniest personality I have ever seen. And this is what she gets as a result. It is a lot more profitable to be a grumpy, scary sort of person who only gets told what she wants to hear because people fear making comments she will not enjoy.

P.S. By the way, the need to police the reproductive choices of others means you are not happy with your own. A person who is 100% at peace with his or her reproductive choices will be equally supportive of a friend who has 10 children as of a friend who has none. So if it really bugs you that somebody is or is not procreating, do something about your unhealthy attitude. People who hope to become grandparents are somewhat excused because they have a legitimate reason to care.

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3 comments on “Grumpiness Pays Off

  1. // It is a lot more profitable to be a grumpy, scary sort of person who only gets told what she wants to hear because people fear making comments she will not enjoy.

    What does this impy about the comments on your blog? :)

    But if you were too scary, there would be echo-chamber, instead of interesting discussions, so there is a need for balance.

    • “What does this imply about the comments on your blog?”

      - It is actually a great thing for me that I’m rude and nasty on the blog. I see how people become completely unhinged on other folks’ blogs and it’s scary. With me, trolls and losers are mostly terrified. Or they get terrified very soon. I don’t go off on normal people with divergent opinions but any shade of disrespect gets a commenter eviscerated. For instance, anybody who appears out of nowhere with a comment that starts “You should. . .” needs to know that I will not even finish reading the comment. This is not a normal way of addressing strangers and everybody needs to know that.

      Of course, people who have been commenting for a while get a lot of leeway.

  2. As for your friend, that’s the delete button & the comment control settings are for.

    By the way, the need to police the reproductive choices of others means you are not happy with your own.
    Repeated for truth.

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