It is very disturbing when parents fail completely to see their children as actual human beings and use them as billboards to advance their own ideology. Look, for example, at these irresponsible and horrible parents from Toronto:
No one knows the sex of Storm Stocker, a 4-month-old baby from Toronto. Only the parents, midwives and two older brothers have ever peeked beneath the diaper. That’s because his — or is it her — parents, Kathy Witterick, 38, and David Stocker, 39, want to raise their child genderless. When Storm came into the world in a birthing pool on New Year’s Day, they sent out this email: “We decided not to share Storm’s sex for now — a tribute to freedom and choice in place of limitation, a standup to what the world could become in Storm’s lifetime.” Even Storm’s brothers, 2-year-old Kio and 5-year-old Jazz, have been sworn to secrecy, as well as one close family friend.
The poor newborn, who was obviously not consulted in the matter, has been turned into an object its parents are using to become famous and advance some very dubious goals. Their justification is that they don’t want to make choices for their kid. Apparently, creating a huge drama about the child’s sex does not count as making a choice, while not concealing a choice of sex that nature made for the kid somehow does. Of course, the simple solution of using their own lives to protest gender dichotomies does not occur to these horrible parents. Why go to the trouble when you can use and abuse a little baby instead?
It always disgusted me when parents used children as pawns in their ideological battles. Vegetarians and vegans who refuse meat to their miserable kids (who, once again, are never consulted in the matter), parents who parade their kids around in T-shirts with Che Guevara’s portraits or take them on anti-choice marches with them, quasi-feminists who refuse to buy their daughters anything pink, pseudo-liberals who deny their children certain kinds of toys on ideological grounds (don’t like guns? Don’t play with them. But let others make their own choices), fundamentalists who force their kids to go to church – these people couldn’t care less about their own children. They see them as objects who need to serve their parents’ purposes and political agendas and make themselves scarce the rest of the time.
My heart goes out to poor Storm who has 18 very miserable years ahead of him or her.