An anonymous reader left the following comment:
one’s love for oneself should always be central to one’s life
This is exactly what I am struggling with, I realise it on a rational level, but I can’t make myself believe in it, because it is completely against my cultural values and against how I was brought up. In my upbringing the main thing was to take care of others, never oneself (and if you did, that was considered completely and totally selfish).
So if at some point you feel like writing about how you came to this conclusion and how you started believing in it, that would be very much appreciated.
This is a very good question. I suggest that you start thinking of this issue in terms of what I call “the airplane strategy.” Do you know how flight attendants always say, “In case of an emergency, put on your own mask before helping anybody else”? The reason why you are told that is that in order to be useful to other people you first need to take care of yourself.
It’s great to want to take care of others but will you really be able to do much for the people you love if you are overworked, exhausted, and miserable? Wouldn’t the people in your life benefit a lot more from having you happy, content, full of energy and, well-rested?
Serafim Sarovsky, one of the greatest Christian thinkers that ever lived, said, “Save yourself and thousands will be saved around you.”