American men are trapped in a vicious circle. They convince themselves that their only value is that of money-making robots with no emotions or feelings. They castrate their existences to place themselves on the altar of this belief. Even when a child is born, a man continues working all through the first days and months of the child’s life. The very normal desire to get to know his newborn is stifled in service to the idea that a man who is not making money every second of his life is a loser.
In case of a divorce, children almost always stay with their mothers because the father who was never around can’t claim a significant bond with his kids. So the man continues working and working and working some more, paying and paying and paying for the children he doesn’t really know and whose company he doesn’t have time or energy to enjoy.
Of course, the only way this system can work is by convincing its participants that not only do they castrate their own existences because that is what they want but that they are enormously privileged to be able to engage in this self-mutilation. Yes, making all that money, how amazing. Unless, of course, you don’t even get to decide how to spend it:
BCG’s study reported that 73% of US household spending is “controlled” by women. I couldn’t find if they defined “controlled” as dollars or purchase decisions, but clearly, the overall take-away is that women are the primary buyers, and their spending accounts for far more of the US consumer economy than their representation (51%) in the US population.
This statistic makes a lot of sense because people who kill themselves working to feel some sense of self-worth are too tired at the end of the day to decide where the money should go.
Sixty years ago, Betty Friedan explained to women why their self-castration was making them miserable. Now somebody needs to explain to men that it isn’t by accident that they die much earlier than women in every single developed country and commit suicide more often than women, too. This is the price they pay for their self-mutilation. For now, all men get in terms of defense of their right to a complete and full existence is a bunch of sad, stupid MRAs whose response to every issue is “blame the feminists!”
Men, you represent half of the population of this country. Stop welcoming your victimization. Do something about it. A normal, healthy existence should have space in it for everything: work, love, family, money, children, career, friends, etc. The mentality where your children belong to their mothers a lot more than they belong to you are horribly damaging to you, the children, and the mothers.
Demand equality. Demand paternity leave. Demand recognition of the fact that your role as fathers is absolutely as important as the role of mothers.
Of course, this would only be the very first step. Betty-Friedan-For-Men would also address the horrible issue of gender roles that dominate women a lot less (thanks to the 2 Great Feminist Revolutions) than they do men.