One of the most poignant tests of a couple is how well they handle moving. I’m extremely proud that N and I handled this move (our second shared one and my fifth since we met) without the tiniest instance of annoyance, bickering, anger, or resentment of the “Why are you relaxing over there with a book while I’m cleaning out the fridge?” variety. This is true love, people.
“A move is the third biggest stressor,” my analyst says. “After the death of a spouse and a terminal diagnosis. . . But knowing you as I do, you are probably not even noticing.”
He’s my analyst, so he has to be kind. I’m noticing, of course. I’m exhausted in the extreme. But I’m using the situation – the stress, the fatigue, the feeling of being overwhelmed, the endless to-do lists – as a way of reinforcing my identity of an indomitable, undefeated person. And that’s very enjoyable.