People are asking if I consider those who cheat on their spouses to be pathetic.
Of course, I do. They are immature loser wimps, and I find immaturity to be intolerably boring. I would never want to spend any time around a person who plays the game of “you be my Daddy / Mommy and I’ll be your 14-year-old kid” with their spouse. I don’t dispute anybody’s right to infantilize themselves in this manner but I prefer not to have to witness this spectacle.
I can’t imagine ever debasing myself to the point of accepting that anybody other than me has the right to decide what I should do with my body. I live my sexuality openly and freely and I’ll be damned if I ever betray it in a way that requires sneaking around and concealing it.
I did the exact opposite of every piece of advice on this deranged list of suggestions for first-year tenure-trackers.
As a result, not only do I have tenure, but I also had a fantastic time in these past six years, always saying and doing exactly what I wanted, not scheming, not manipulating, just being who I am (including not selfish, not cutting corners in teaching, and very loud all of the time).
So I have some advice of my own for people on tenure-track or any other career path: forget these stupid scripts, be passionate, be honest, enjoy yourself, and you’ll get everywhere you want to get without turning yourself into a mental invalid in the process.
Turns out thousands of addresses on Ashley Madison have .gov, .mil, and .edu extensions. The realization that there are so many arrant losers among the elite who’d use an official work email to meet cheating partners is disturbing.