What bothers me in the discussions of the refugees in Europe is that such an enormous percentage of articles on the subject is written by men. The greatest burden of this demographic shift will be borne by women, and it would make sense to hear out what women have to say about it. Feminist groups don’t seem to be capable of saying anything on the subject, and that’s very disturbing.
Most of the refugees are young men. It is highly unlikely that they are all gay, so it follows that they will be trying to establish contact with local women. (I hope nobody here is stupid enough to believe that having wives or fiancées back home will have any impact on their eagerness to connect with local women.) The ways in which men from third world countries establish contact with women is deeply degrading to women.
As a result of 250 years of massive and heroic efforts on the part of the great Western feminist movement, it has become possible to civilize most of the men in the US, Canada, Australia, and Western Europe and make the lives of women in these areas not horrible. Everywhere else, men treat women in a disgusting, shameful way. Everywhere, people, everywhere. (If anybody wants to start with the idiotic “But American men also”, I direct them to my yesterday’s post on self-pity and then to the exit.)
If a man from, say, the horribly sexist, woman – hating societies of the Russian – speaking or Latin American world is brought to a country of significant feminist advances, he soon learns to control himself and stops trying to insult, grope, beat, grab or slap women in the street. He also finally figures out how not to make himself a nuisance at work with his need loudly to hate women. Eventually, many such men might even learn not to do abuse women inside their houses. Yes, I’m sure that your friend who is a professor of French literature from Brazil was never a sexist. I’m not talking about exceptions, though.
However, when men who grew up in woman – hating cultures are surrounded by a group of similarly woman – hating peers, there is zero incentive for them to change.
As I shared before, I experienced a huge culture shock when I moved from Canada to the US. The only welcome change among all the painful ones was that finally I could leave my apartment without any men ogling, following, pursuing me, trying to get in my face, and treating me like a piece of trash. Back in Montréal, I lived in the midst of a huge Muslim community, and this was my daily reality. Once, for instance, a Syrian man followed me from the university library to my building, angrily insisting that I provide him with oral sex immediately.
I’m hearing that women are already encountering problems when they want to go about their lives without being hassled in Brussels or Marseilles. The tragedy of Rotherham and other similar places is just a preview of how easily all the feminist advances can be erased if enough people decide it’s inconvenient to keep these advances around.
Now would be the time to demand that the governments of European countries explain what they are planning to do to prevent millions of refugees who have zero interest in learning how to see women as human beings from cracking the thin veneer of civilization that prevents Western women from being brutalized by men like their sisters everywhere else are. (And yes, the sisters in question happily advance their own brutalization. That’s their right. Just like it’s my right not to want to join them in their debasement.)
We, the women of developed countries, deserve to hear what will be done to promote our interests. We are half of the population, we work, we pay taxes, we deserve to define the terms of this conversation.