Gloomy One-and-doners

It was a big mistake to join the FB group for parents of only children. I had no idea that all we would do is moan about how it was a huge mistake to give birth to even one child since the world is doomed, everything is oh-so-horrible, and the future is grim.

The reason I joined was I thought people would give suggestions on activities with an only child, and make me feel like less of a loser for not having more kids. I was hoping for things along the lines of, “I have one child, and it’s great, look at this fun activity we did today.” But it’s all doom and gloom. Sheesh.

P.S. I obviously don’t think that people who have one child (or none, or five, or any number) are losers. I think I am for not being healthy enough to get pregnant again.

NYTimes: How a Liberal Couple Became Two of N.Y.’s Biggest Trump Supporters

NYTimes reaches a new low with breaking news about two gay guys who are Trump supporters. I mean, what makes this story even remotely interesting? We know there are people who support Trump. It’s a fact of objective reality we’ve all had two years to notice. Is it that they are gay? Well, I’ve got a newsflash: gay people are human. This means they can be super bright, super dumb, and anything in between. One would think that folks would have realized this by the end of 2018.

What’s next, two black people support Trump, so let’s write a long piece about it?

I hate this kind of thing because it is based on the assumption that gay people are not fully human and don’t have the full range of human characteristics. I also hate it because the genre of “OMG, I’m so mystified by the workings of the minds of Trump supporters” grew stale about 18 months ago.

Generation Gap

Two great belief systems are clashing here. The older liberals tend to be individualistic and meritocratic. A citizen’s job is to be activist, compassionate and egalitarian. Boomers generally think they earned their success through effort and talent.

The younger militants tend to have been influenced by the cultural Marxism that is now the lingua franca in the elite academy. Group identity is what matters. Society is a clash of oppressed and oppressor groups. People who are successful usually got that way through some form of group privilege and a legacy of oppression.

I don’t know, I’m not seeing that at all. All of the young people I know are exactly like these “old liberals” described here. And in contrast, I know many 40, 50, 60 and even 70-year-olds who are exactly like the “younger militants” described here. If the young people do parrot these platitudes about “oppressor groups,” that’s because they want to impress some adult who desperately needs to hear it.

That’s my experience.

Morning Dialogues

“Mommy, do cows give us milk?”


“And what do goats give us?”

“They also give milk.”

“What do piggies give us?”

“They give us meat and bacon.”

“Mommy, why does everybody give us something?”

“Because. . . Erm. . . People need a lot of things and take them from everything else.”

“Why do people need so many things, mommy?”

“Erm. . . Hey, look at that funny car over there!”

“Why do people need so many cars, mommy?”

Parenting Question

When should I start elf on the shelf? Is Klara too young? My fear is that I won’t be able to explain the not touching him and not dragging him everywhere with her part at this age. (Or her, rather. Because she doesn’t accept the idea of male toys at this point.)

Has anybody done it and what are your suggestions?

We did the switch witch this year, and it went great. We’d started playing the switch witch in August, so by Halloween she was perfectly ready for her.