Princesses for Boys

For the International Women’s Day, I got a bunch of tulips, dark chocolate covered banana and pineapple slices, and a bottle of port.

Klara got a bunch of superhero stickers.

“What are these, mommy?” she asked.

So I had to explain that these are like princesses but for boys. Then I had to explain why boys don’t get anything sparkly or in “happy colors.”

She is the kind of girl who doesn’t leave the house without donning a sparkly princess dress with a puffy skirt and color-coordinated socks, hair ties, and shoes. I once offered her a pair of jeans, and she reacted as if I were making a bad joke. Given that this is how I react to jeans, too, I’m not deeply shocked.


8 thoughts on “Princesses for Boys”

  1. California as usual:

    True stupidity from Jim Clyburn:

    “Clyburn came to Omar’s defense Wednesday, lamenting that many of the media reports surrounding the recent controversy have omitted mentioning that Omar, who was born in Somalia, had to flee the country to escape violence and spent four years in a Kenyan refugee camp before coming to the United States.

    Her experience, Clyburn argued, is much more empirical — and powerful — than that of people who are generations removed from the Holocaust, Japanese internment camps during World War II and the other violent episodes that have marked history.

    “I’m serious about that. There are people who tell me, ‘Well, my parents are Holocaust survivors.’ ‘My parents did this.’ It’s more personal with her,” Clyburn said. “I’ve talked to her, and I can tell you she is living through a lot of pain.”


    1. That is beyond tone-deaf. Why does he think it’s a good idea to say this crap? It’s ridiculous. I mean, I lived in a totalitarian regime. Does that give me an excuse to say shitty things about African Americans who are centuries removed from slavery? Does any amount of personal suffering excuse that? I don’t think so.


    2. “Omar, who was born in Somalia, had to flee the country”

      Who was she fleeing? Oh yeah…. her countrymen and co-religionists…. not in the same universe as holocaust survivors…


      1. Good point.

        That it would occur to people to suggest that Holocaust is not that big of a deal because somebody somewhere experienced hardship, too, is extremely scary. We were told to expect neo-nazism on Trump’s side, but it’s coming from the opposite direction.


  2. “the International Women’s Day”

    Is this a thing in the US now or just people you know (from places where it’s always been a thing).

    When I arrived in Poland in the early 1990s it was still a thing but there was also pushback (a lot from women who were expected to do all the work in organizing the assemblies and ‘parties’ in their honor*). Some said it was a phony Soviet holiday and hypocritical since it did nothing to address real inequalities…

    By now it’s barely mentioned and not really celebrated in any important way beyond some men buying flowers for wives, girlfriends or mothers…

    *In Poland a person experiencing a special day is supposed to organize their own party and provide food and drink for guests, sometimes several parties for different sets of friends…


    1. Not in the US but definitely gaining in popularity in Canada and massively important in Spain. I’m the kind of person who celebrates the first Tuesday of the week, so I’ll take any holiday.


  3. How did you explain to Klara why boys don’t get things in happy, sparkly colors? My 3 year old son would be so sad if he heard you. He thinks superheros are scary and won’t watch any superhero cartoons. But he loves bright, sparkly colors and unicorns. I don’t see why a small child shouldn’t love these things because they’re pretty and fun and don’t lead to nightmares.


    1. Of course, he should if that’s what he prefers. But all of the boy’s clothes at the store are super drab. When I was looking for stuff for my 3yo nephew, the selection was depressing. I don’t know why clothing companies don’t expand their profit by making wearable pants for girls and bright, fun clothing for boys. I know there’s demand.


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