A Difficult Relationship

Found this on FB and it’s priceless. I feel like I’m stealing a text but there’s no linking, so what can I do?

“Long post ahead.. PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE

Here is an exhausting relationship for you. I need to get things off of my chest and this seems like the best place to do it, so here goes.

We’ve been together for a while now. I love him, more than I’ve ever loved anyone. He’s beautiful and can be so sweet and loving. But everything is so one sided. He doesn’t work, doesn’t cook, doesn’t clean. He contributes nothing to the house except for messes that I end up cleaning up myself. And he doesn’t appreciate anything I do, doesn’t even seem to notice the majority of it. For the most part he’s always in a good mood, but when he gets upset, he becomes so unreasonable. There’s no talking to him about it. His communication skills are severely lacking. So most of the time it’s just a guessing game of trying to figure out what’s bothering him this time. Like dude, just tell me what’s wrong, how can I fix it or make it better. He won’t tell me.

He always wants me to do what HE wants to do. Even when I spend nearly all of my time with him, he wants more. Sometimes it’s hard to even get things done like laundry, or dishes cause he expects me to be 24-7 available to him. He will even WAKE ME UP in the MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT, to cater to him. Because he wants to eat or hang out. I rarely get a decent nights sleep and he doesn’t care how it affects me during the day.

Like I said, I love him more than anything. But it’s so much. I try venting to my friends and family but they are always making excuses for his behavior. “JENNI, he’s only 3 years old…He’s just a toddler. Things will get better.” but I don’t know. Do people really ever change? Or is he just toxic?”

4 thoughts on “A Difficult Relationship”

  1. “‘Do people really ever change? Or is he just toxic?'”

    Stupid question! The writer isn’t even feminist enough to recognize the TOXIC MASCULINITY that is every male’s birthright?


  2. “only 3 years old…Do people really ever change? Or is he just toxic?”

    This would be funny if it weren’t how many people seem to actually react to their children….


    1. God, don’t they ever.

      The best lesson in motherhood I got was from a nurse at the hospital where my sister gave birth. The baby was shrieking and we were all freaking out because none of us had kids before.

      “Why, why is she crying???” my sister asked frantically.

      “She’s a baby,” the nurse said. “That’s what they do.”

      That really helped put things in perspective.


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