Procrastinating on Errands

I don’t know, I’m not buying this explanation on procrastinating on errands. I’m not a millennial, I grew up in a different world, and my experience of a “financial catastrophe” is from a different planet. But I’m the queen of procrastinating on errands and perceiving them as a burden. N, who grew up in the same society and in the same kind of family, on the other hand, is phenomenal with errands. I’m not an envious person but I do feel jealous of how he dominates his errand list.

I haven’t found an answer for my endless delays of the simplest errands but I intuit that it has something to do with needing to feel guilt to be motivated. This is a result of having poor internal motivation mechanisms. I don’t have a better explanation for now but it’s not a generational or societal thing. I was exactly the same in Ukraine a quarter of a century ago. So I identify completely with the experience the author of the article describes but not in the least with the journey of becoming this way.

11 thoughts on “Procrastinating on Errands”

  1. The idea that you should be working all the time is a key cause of burnout, though, I think. (Before I learned I should be a workaholic, I was not burned out and I was more productive, and I didn’t procrastinate.)

    Errands, I procrastinate on them because they mean all this starting the car, and driving in boring traffic and ugly places. If I could do them by walking or with more esthetically pleasing and non-jarring travel I would not procrastinate. I find I am best at them now if I do a whole day of them, save them up and do them all, telling myself I am on an adventure quest, going out to lunch or something in the middle, making it festive.


  2. My favorite part of My Dinner with Andrew is when Wallace Shawn talks about the satisfaction of completing every day errands…. I enjoy them sometimes when they’re not too onerous or don’t involve dealing with unpleasant people or tedious waiting but they often involve one or more of those things so…

    I generally need a psychologically real deadline to get working on things (knowing when the deadline is is not enough it has to…. be a real presence).

    I’m involved in this big translation project again over the summer and… I sort of know when the deadline is and think I should get moving well in advance, but…

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        1. Everyone is saying “oh, SNL turned you gay so you decided to abandon your children on a whim!” It’s hard to judge the situation based on this story but I’m guessing it was actually deeper than that. People seem to think they know everything about this woman and her marriage based on one short article.


          1. People should get out more. These things happen. People discover their sexuality at any stage in life. It’s better that one find out late than spend all one’s life miserable and repressed.

            I personally know two such stories. One happened to a friend and another to a distant relative. Everybody is definitely happier after the people in question came out.


            1. You’d think nobody commenting has an early memory of a sexy scene from a movie or TV that they still remembering decades later. Older people often talk about the Sears catalog being important to them as adolescents. Their sexual awakenings aren’t any more deeply meaningful than this woman’s; weird things can spark exploration and self awareness.


              1. Exactly. I think we should be happy for this woman. And it’s great that she shared because people need to hear these stories and understand that human sexuality is complicated.


          2. Unrelated, from that article: “I was married to my best friend and we had two beautiful, healthy and hilarious children, with successful careers and a beautiful home.” Am I a horrible person for being very annoyed that this sentence wasn’t edited before publishing? Who has successful careers and a beautiful home? Sounds like it’s the healthy and hilarious children.

            Anyway, kudos to this woman. In my 20s, I would’ve told you I was 100% straight because I did like men, a lot, and because of where I grew up I was too homophobic to even entertain any other possibility. Now in my 40s, I’m pretty sure I’m bi (maybe a 1.5 or even a 2 on the Kinsey scale). Not that I plan on doing much with that info, as I’ve been married to a man for 20 years, but it’s definitely something I realized later in life, actually in the past decade. You figure out things when you figure them out; it doesn’t make them any less true.


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