By the way, gender roles are dead even in the most conservative communities. In my church, for instance, we always have a large meal after service. We divide into teams, and every team is responsible for a month of cooking. There’s a large, professional-grade kitchen, so people cook right there. In a year I’ve been with this church, I have observed no gender imbalance in who cooks and who cleans up. And there’s no age imbalance either. 70-year-old men cook alongside their 40-year-old sons, and they do a really good job.
The men also do as much child-minding as women. Again, this includes older men who bring little grandkids and then run around with bottles and diaper bags. I spend a lot of time in the kid room, and there are mostly men there with me, minding the kids while the wives are either listening to the service or sometimes at work.
The Board of Trustees is evenly split by gender, and the leader is a woman.
And this is the most conservative Christian denomination. Even in academia I often see humiliating scenes when everybody shares a meal, and then the women get up to clean while men keep chatting like they are used to having servants. I was afraid that church would be intolerable to my feminist sensibilities but it’s simply not the case.