Top 30

People are complaining about how this is the worst year of their lives.

Gosh, it’s not even in my top 30.

17 thoughts on “Top 30”

  1. I can relate. I’ve had a lot worse happen to me but Some people have been hit hard and they are scared. So I relate to you but understand them too.


  2. It’s the fear. The levels of fear out there just astound me, especially among people who, generally, are not in the at-risk demographic. A healthy 30 year old might as well worry about getting struck by lightning or eaten by a bear, but, instead, they are worrying themselves sick and running to Big Brother. I just don’t get it. Or rather, I get that younger people who have been insulated from death and taught the think every bad thing that happens is the result of somebody oppressing somebody might think this is bad. People here and now die in nursing homes and hospitals, mostly, so younger people may never have been around people dying, or see it as something foreign to their lives.

    Since we live in a land of plenty at a time of peace, somebody under 40 might just thing this strangling fear is the worse thing ever.

    Me? Having our daughter’s wedding ruined probably pushes this year into the bottom 10 or so, but not anywhere near the worst year.


      1. We humans are generally terrible at assessing risk. And functionally innumerate. Stat might as well be astrophysics.

        It’s far worse than fearing a .5% risk: the risk is not homogeneous: the people who seem to be doing the most worrying have something like a 0.001% risk.

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          1. It is the availability heuristic combined with the modern media. People estimate risks based on how easily examples of the danger come to mind. The images of dead bodies piling up in NYC and Italy make COVID seem more dangerous than it actually is.

            This is also the reason why nuclear power and terrorism are considered so dangerous even though the risk of dying in a terrorist attack or nuclear accident are negligible. The spectacular nature of these events and huge media coverage make it easy to bring examples to mind.


    1. I don’t get this either. People seem terrified beyond all reason. I think it definitely has to do with what you say. People knowing only comfort and prosperity and not knowing how to deal with the kind of risk and uncertainty that is always present in life

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  3. To me, this year is miserable because of the persistent, low-grade anxiety that seems to be in the air everywhere I go. Or maybe it’s just at the hospital? It’s compounded by boredom caused by extremely low work volumes. It’s an easy recipe for burnout. Is it sad that I’m glad to be staying home with my fever tomorrow, even though it means missing work I usually really enjoy?

    Not the worst year, by far, though — I’ve had no major depressive episodes.


  4. My daughter, third of four kids, is a senior in high school this year. She rides horses at an elite level. In November she lost her soulmate and beautiful, young horse to colic. Now this. She missed out on five college visits (we were saving them for after she got admitted), seven horse shows, a trip to Rome with her big brother, on-site college orientation, most of the high school “senior spring.” This has been the worst year of her young life.

    She’s one of the few who gets to say it, though.

    PS I’m so sorry about the masks!! I made about twenty but my kids kept giving them to friends.


    1. I don’t want anybody to feel criticized or diminished with this post. I’ve had a really tough life is what I’m trying to say and that’s why I’m not noticing this current hardship much. I was born in the USSR where we experienced poverty and anti-semitism. I had to make a living in the midst of the post-soviet bandit wars. I emigrated twice. I got divorced. I had to bring up my sister when I was myself a kid. I buried my eldest child.

      But it definitely sucks for the young ones who haven’t yet experienced what life can be like. I’m really sorry your daughter is going through all this!


      1. Clarissa, my apologies. I realized based on your response that I must have been engaged in what I call the race to the bottom, and what my older son calls the victim olympics. Not so. I was just thinking, THAT kid gets to call it a bad year. I don’t, or my other kids or husband, or the vast majority of people I know. That’s all. I’m terribly sorry for all you’ve endured, and I hope that it wasn’t all in the same year. And also that I admire you for your typically hopeful attitude on your blog.


  5. I’m reserving judgment on my year when it comes to ranking it, because in none of the ways I measure time is the year over.


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