Since I became Chair, my view of my colleagues changed dramatically. Not all of them but several for sure. I’ve discovered depths of reliability, seriousness and deviousness in the best sense of the word in several of them.
This means that I’m an inattentive, self-absorbed colleague, which isn’t really big news. I wonder, though, if it will freak people out if I start telling them how wonderful they are 12 years into the relationship.