I’m still reading Lidia Falcón’s autobiography, and she’s telling about the very typical collapse of her first marriage at the age of twenty. This part of the book really speaks to me because I experienced the same thing.
And here’s the problem. It’s enormously easier to give birth at 20 than at 35 or 40. But you can’t be good at marriage at 20. You definitely can’t be anything as good at it as you can be at 35 or 40. The things that look insurmountable at twenty become child’s play later in life.
Falcón says that it’s best to have kids at 18-20 because you don’t have to interrupt your career for them. There’s nothing to interrupt at that age. And it’s true but then her marriage fell apart over some silly stuff three years in. So the kids were screwed from the get-go.