Here’s the way Russians see the unfairness of their position in the world.
Russia beat Germany in the war. Russia saved humanity from German Nazism. But today if you go anywhere in the world, people look at you completely differently if you say “I’m German” and “I’m Russian”. Way before the war, all you heard if you said “I’m Russian” was “Ah! Bandits and whores. Which one is you?” You save the world from Nazism but nobody cares because you are, for ever and ever, a bandit and a whore. When somebody says, “I have a Russian girlfriend”, everybody immediately thinks “Bought himself a mail order bride”. Nobody thinks that when somebody says, “I have a German (British, French, Canadian) girlfriend”.
I know how it feels because Ukrainians also have “whores and bandits” rolled out at us on a regular basis. Or had until February 2022. You probably have no idea with what childish joy people inform one that one must be a whore or a bandit in a wide variety of contexts. A couple of years ago, I was giving a talk at a local public library iny capacity as professor and department chair. A woman gets up during the Q&A session and announces brightly that she knows some women from my “part of the world”, and they are all prostitutes in mink coats. You think a professor from Germany gets such comments?
And, I mean, it’s not like people are wrong. We do have a massive problem with banditry and whoredom. Everybody assumes that a Russian (or Ukrainian) wife was bought from a catalogue because she probably was.
Of course, I’m Ukrainian, so I have an easy out from this. It’s not our fault, I say. We were conquered by Russia and they made us into this. Once we are free from them, we will be different, better, and the world will know us for other achievements than organized crime and lack of morals.
What do Russians say? Whom do they blame? Leaving aside the bandits and the whores, whom do they blame for the crimes of Stalinism, for the loss of the Cold War, and now for the current war? How do they explain this all to themselves in a way that they’ll be able to live with?
For now, all they came up with is “evil West is doing this to us on purpose”. We are seeing right now where that belief system leads. But what’s the alternative? It’s a serious question, and I have no answer to it.