Such a difficult thing, struggles, incredibly stressful.
What do these people do when something that actually is difficult happens? Also, once they have gotten into the habit of hyping up the “incredibly stressful struggle” of thinking of what to make for dinner, they can’t trick their minds into not believing the hype. The mind believes what you tell it to believe. They will end up being incredibly stressed because they told themselves to be.
This is a very self-defeating strategy. Why employ it if you can do the exact opposite? Tell yourself that you love choosing what to make for dinner every day. Repeat it for a couple of weeks. Inhabit the feeling of deep enjoyment, and that’s it. It’s done. From then on, you’re going to be a person who derives great joy from choosing what to make for dinner.
Why are people not doing that? Do they not know how to do it? That seems hard to believe, because the road towards the great joy of choosing what’s for dinner is exactly the same as the road to the great stress of choosing what’s for dinner. Are they that addicted to the image of themselves as hassled and overwhelmed?
I’m neck-deep in household chores since we came back from church today. The joy I derive from these chores is intense, not because they are particularly pleasant, but because, since I have to do them anyway, I decided it makes more sense to enjoy them than not. But if I told myself that I’m incredibly stressed by them and this is all extremely difficult, then yes, I would be incredibly stressed.
There are many situations in life where we cannot avoid incredible stress. In view of that, doesn’t it make sense to not talk yoursef into misery in simple daily situations where no misery is necessary?
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