A Male Blogger Lectures on Female Sexuality

The bad news is that mothers can actually cause their young daughters to buy into this early equalization, potentially causing them to develop attitudes about their sexuality that can have serious long-term consequences on how they view themselves and their future sexual behavior.

But, thankfully, mothers’ influence on their daughters is two sides of the same coin. The good news is that mothers also have the ability to mitigate this unhealthy messages about sexuality by limiting exposure to age-inappropriate sexuality, using early exposure to sexual messages as teachable moments, instilling healthy values and attitudes about sexuality, and, probably most importantly, not sexually objectifying themselves.

Actually, dear male blogger who erroneously believes he is some huge expert on female sexuality, the best thing that can happen to a girl is to have a mother who is confident and happy in her sexuality, who finds it easy to provoke sexual desire and who can teach the daughter to be a happy sexual being. This kind of teaching does not happen through lecturing. It can only be done through setting an example.  A dowdy, frigid mother who can’t remember the last time when she had ecstatic sex can mumble for years about the importance of a healthy sexuality but all she will manage to achieve is to produce an equally sexually miserable daughter.

And, of course, a sexually happy and confident woman will never keep around a man who thinks he has the right to tell her how much or how little she should “sexually objectify herself.” I’m guessing that this uncomfortable and grammatically ridiculous verbal construction is supposed to refer to women dressing, moving and acting in a sexy way. This causes insecure men whose own sex drive is stunted to fear that they will not be able to satisfy a fully sexual woman and she will run away. This is why this male blogger is so obsessed with passing judgment on how “invested” women are in their own appearances:

Another finding of the study was the girls who spent a lot of time with media and who had mothers who were overly invested in their own appearance were more likely to identify with the sexily clad dolls.

I find that people who bellyache about “sexualized children” are people who feel sexual desires towards children and are terrified by them. A normal, healthy person would never see a child as “sexualized” whether the child is dressed or naked. The worry about “sexualization of children” has nothing to do with children. It has to do with sexually miserable adults who are so erotically starved that they see sex wherever they turn. Including in small children.

If you need proof, look at the concluding sentence of this article:

We the parents have the power to either turn our daughters into little you-know-whats or into strong and confident women with a healthy relationship with their sexuality.

Got it? Little you-know-whats. This male blogger sees in children what is very obviously not there because he needs to see it.


9 thoughts on “A Male Blogger Lectures on Female Sexuality”

  1. Good post, although it’s USA and so I can relate to it. 🙂

    What I find very sad is leftists walking around asserting that if you are aloof, you must be a narcissist. Anybody can be aloof for any reason. The supposition that one must necessarily be evil if one is aloof is a notion of persecutors who want you to join their clan. Actually, those who want to get too close, who are very sugary and seductive, can be much more dangerous.

    See: http://lbo-news.com/2012/10/04/why-obama-lost-the-debate/


    1. Oh my God, woman, you are scary!!! Just this very moment I was writing a response to this post you link and how it’s stupid to call an aloof person a narcissist! You anticipated my entire post for me. It’s kind of scary that you just read my mind. Or i read yours.


      1. I thought you might relate to it. It’s amazing how he gets it back to front, but that is all too common. I’ve spent my life trying to get away from right-wing and left-wing psychological molesters who made out I was a narcissist for trying to maintain my distance from them.


  2. Brilliant post. So tired of parents, especially mother’s, being flogged because of the over active imaginations of supposedly fully grown men, who see sex everywhere. Especially in the places it’s not. Well done.


  3. Actually, I bellyache about the inappropriate sexualization of little girls. I want girls to grow up unselfconscious, not feeling that their job is to dress and act to appeal to boys and men. Prepubertal girls ought to be free to play in rough-and-ready play clothes, blue jeans and the like. If they wear dresses, they should be encouraged to wear athletic shorts underneath (I wore bloomers in my day), so that if they want to turn a somersault, they can do so. Girls oughtn’t to sit on the sidelines. If they want to play dress-like-Mommy-dressed-to-kill, OK, but this should remain an occasional game and not day-to-day behavior. They will have enough time to imagine their own sexuality once they hit puberty.

    Did I mention that I was a tomboy and hated wearing dresses that prevented me from playing?


    1. I think that children should choose their own clothes from as early age as possible.

      “If they wear dresses, they should be encouraged to wear athletic shorts underneath (I wore bloomers in my day)”

      – I was forced to do that and perceived it as so deeply humiliating that I had to hide in the bathroom and cry and tear my hair out for 15 minutes. People are different. Which is why I say that “I think that children should choose their own clothes from as early age as possible.” And then this entire issue will be solved easily.


    2. ” If they want to play dress-like-Mommy-dressed-to-kill, OK, but this should remain an occasional game and not day-to-day behavior. ”

      – So you’d forbid it? Because you know better what another person needs based on what you needed when you were her age? And then you will be very surprised when she allows a man after a man after a man explain to her what she needs in life.

      Please understand that I don’t mean you personally. I object to seeing children as dolls who only exist to reply the adults’ childhoods.


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