The bad news is that mothers can actually cause their young daughters to buy into this early equalization, potentially causing them to develop attitudes about their sexuality that can have serious long-term consequences on how they view themselves and their future sexual behavior.
But, thankfully, mothers’ influence on their daughters is two sides of the same coin. The good news is that mothers also have the ability to mitigate this unhealthy messages about sexuality by limiting exposure to age-inappropriate sexuality, using early exposure to sexual messages as teachable moments, instilling healthy values and attitudes about sexuality, and, probably most importantly, not sexually objectifying themselves.
Actually, dear male blogger who erroneously believes he is some huge expert on female sexuality, the best thing that can happen to a girl is to have a mother who is confident and happy in her sexuality, who finds it easy to provoke sexual desire and who can teach the daughter to be a happy sexual being. This kind of teaching does not happen through lecturing. It can only be done through setting an example. A dowdy, frigid mother who can’t remember the last time when she had ecstatic sex can mumble for years about the importance of a healthy sexuality but all she will manage to achieve is to produce an equally sexually miserable daughter.
And, of course, a sexually happy and confident woman will never keep around a man who thinks he has the right to tell her how much or how little she should “sexually objectify herself.” I’m guessing that this uncomfortable and grammatically ridiculous verbal construction is supposed to refer to women dressing, moving and acting in a sexy way. This causes insecure men whose own sex drive is stunted to fear that they will not be able to satisfy a fully sexual woman and she will run away. This is why this male blogger is so obsessed with passing judgment on how “invested” women are in their own appearances:
Another finding of the study was the girls who spent a lot of time with media and who had mothers who were overly invested in their own appearance were more likely to identify with the sexily clad dolls.
I find that people who bellyache about “sexualized children” are people who feel sexual desires towards children and are terrified by them. A normal, healthy person would never see a child as “sexualized” whether the child is dressed or naked. The worry about “sexualization of children” has nothing to do with children. It has to do with sexually miserable adults who are so erotically starved that they see sex wherever they turn. Including in small children.
If you need proof, look at the concluding sentence of this article:
We the parents have the power to either turn our daughters into little you-know-whats or into strong and confident women with a healthy relationship with their sexuality.
Got it? Little you-know-whats. This male blogger sees in children what is very obviously not there because he needs to see it.