Repressed Anger

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Clarissa

January 24, 2013

If you get tempted to make the following comments about other people’s clothes, you need to start working on your repressed aggression now:

I’m not kidding. Having an intense emotional reaction – any emotional reaction whatsoever, actually – to whether another person who is not your own infant child – will feel cold is a sign of psychological problems. Your problems.

Repressed anger is very likely to lead to high blood pressure and a variety of other health issues. I suggest that you find out what it is that you are really so angry about (hint: it isn’t this stranger’s clothing choices) and discover a way to release that anger.

Please take this seriously. You know those folks who keep grumbling about how much everybody irritates them? They are grumbling themselves right into a stroke and victimizing everybody who has the misfortune of knowing them in the process.

I found this exchange here.

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23 responses to “Repressed Anger”

charlesrowley

January 24, 2013

You appear to be equally angry about those who comment on other people’s dress wear. Is that good for your blood pressure? The tone of your criticism is far harsher than that of those that you quote about such outer-wear.

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1. bloggerclarissa
  
  January 24, 2013
  
  I never concealed that I started this blog on the advice of my doctor as a means of lowering my blood pressure. By the way, people routinely write to me to share that my advice has helped them lower their BP non-medically, so the method works! 🙂 🙂
  
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2. bellejarblog
  
  January 24, 2013
  
  +1 for concern-trolling!
  
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Titfortat

January 24, 2013

@charles

The irony, lol.

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1. bloggerclarissa
  
  January 24, 2013
  
  And once again Titfortat uses vocabulary he doesn’t understand.
  
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  1. Titfortat
    
    January 24, 2013
    
    Of course Clarissa. I come her for a professor to instruct me. Go for it. 🙂
    
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    1. bloggerclarissa
      
      January 24, 2013
      
      “Of course Clarissa. I come her for a professor to instruct me. Go for it.”
      
      – Hysteria makes you dense. I said a gazillion times that this is a blog, not a classroom.
      
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  2. Titfortat
    
    January 24, 2013
    
    Au contraire. You just showed me the error of my ways. I used irony in the wrong way. In fact I didnt even realize i have been doing this forever. Thanks for the lesson. The term I should have used was hypocrite.
    
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    1. bloggerclarissa
      
      January 24, 2013
      
      OK, Titfortat has not been able to control his hysteria on his own, so he will have a little rest in the read-only mode.
      
      You can come back after February 1, if you feel better by that time.
      
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Andrea Harris

January 24, 2013

Gosh I almost hate commenting after such stellar first comments as the ones left by Charles Rowley and Tit For Tat. By the way, nice textbook demonstration of two different passive-aggressive techniques men use to get women riled up. Rowley used the “stuffy, avuncular uncle disapproving young-lady-don’t-you-talk-to-your-elder-like-that” method, and Tit used the “breezy women-are-so-cute-when-they’re-mad chuckling dismissal of a serious argument” method. Textbook.

Anyway, I used to do the same thing. A lot of my former blogging energy came from all the anger at, well, everything that I kept bottled up inside over the years. It was such a relief to let the snark fly! But as the years went by the anger drained away, fewer things bothered me, I blogged less…

Another thing. The other day I’m going into the store and it’s in the 30s and I’m bundled up in my jacket and sweater and this schoolkid walks by in shorts and a t-shirt. Far from being outraged my first thought was admiration: “Wow, that kid is hardcore!”

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1. bloggerclarissa
  
  January 24, 2013
  
  People just don’t read very carefully. I have mentioned dozens of times that I have high blood pressure and that this issue is caused by repressed anger. And then people present this as some huge discovery of their own. This happens often, too. Somebody would come with, “Let me tell you who you are! You are a feminist!!!”
  
  Yeah, I know. I only mentioned it a billion times on this very blog.
  
  “Anyway, I used to do the same thing. A lot of my former blogging energy came from all the anger at, well, everything that I kept bottled up inside over the years. It was such a relief to let the snark fly! But as the years went by the anger drained away, fewer things bothered me, I blogged less…”
  
  – That’s a very healthy process.
  
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2. Titfortat
  
  January 24, 2013
  
  @Andrea
  
  Interesting take on it, you make it about gender. That in itself speaks volumes about your view of the world.
  
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  1. bloggerclarissa
    
    January 24, 2013
    
    Titfortat: last warning, man. If you can’t get a grip on your fit of hysteria, I will send you off for a short rest.
    
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David Gendron

January 24, 2013

This post is about repressed anger, not just anger.

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Evelina Anville

January 24, 2013

This post made me laugh. Although I must say that I was fairly bewildered when I saw students walking around in shorts in – 5 F weather a couple of days ago. And it wasn’t just one student. I don’t know how they didn’t die of exposure!

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1. bloggerclarissa
  
  January 24, 2013
  
  I had a friend from Chile who would walk in the snow wearing flip-flops over bare feet and invariably sigh, “What a horrible climate! How are people supposed to walk with all this snow without getting their feet wet!” 🙂
  
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el

January 24, 2013

I have a different theory: people have almost a mild form of addiction to update all the time and since they don’t have interesting thoughts every minute, they write all kinds of trivial observations, without caring about half-naked strangers at all, of course.

I wrote “form of addiction”, but want to clarify it: some neurotypical people are extroverts and for them desire to socialize a lot is perfectly normal.

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1. bloggerclarissa
  
  January 24, 2013
  
  I think that what you say is definitely true. However, people who feel seriously bugged by minor details of existence need to know that they might be suffering from high BP. Many people simply don’t know until it’s too late.
  
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el

January 24, 2013

OMG. Look:

New Mexico Bill Would Criminalize Abortions After Rape As ‘Tampering With Evidence’

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/01/24/new-mexico-abortion-bill_n_2541894.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular

A Republican lawmaker in New Mexico introduced a bill on Wednesday that would legally require victims of rape to carry their pregnancies to term in order to use the fetus as evidence for a sexual assault trial.

House Bill 206, introduced by state Rep. Cathrynn Brown (R), would charge a rape victim who ended her pregnancy with a third-degree felony for “tampering with evidence.”

“Tampering with evidence shall include procuring or facilitating an abortion, or compelling or coercing another to obtain an abortion, of a fetus that is the result of criminal sexual penetration or incest with the intent to destroy evidence of the crime,” the bill says.

Third-degree felonies in New Mexico carry a sentence of up to three years in prison.

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UPDATE: 12:25 p.m. — Brown said in a statement Thursday that she introduced the bill with the goal of punishing the person who commits incest or rape and then procures or facilitates an abortion to destroy the evidence of the crime.

“New Mexico needs to strengthen its laws to deter sex offenders,” said Brown. “By adding this law in New Mexico, we can help to protect women across our state.”

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Leah Jane

January 24, 2013

This reminds me of listening to someone I know rant about women who wore uggs (those fuzzy boots that used to be in style about five years ago) with shorts, complaining that it made the wearers “look like weather-confused (sic) sluts.”
Temper temper. 🙂

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Jodi

January 24, 2013

When my son was in middle school, he refused to wear his coat even though he walked a half mile to school and wore short sleeve t-shirts year round. He’d usually shower in the mornings and his hair would freeze on the way if it were cold enough (which he thought was “cool”). When asked why he didn’t wear a coat, he’d reply that he was “impervious to cold”. The school did call to make sure he actually had a coat (they’d have bought him one if he didn’t have one or we couldn’t afford it).

At 12 and 13, I figured he was old enough to make his own decisions on what he wore or didn’t wear (I always made sure he had a coat that fit, just in case). He finally grew out of that at about 18 and started wearing a coat when he went off to college. Now he says he can remember never being cold at that age and wishes that were still the case.

The thing is, I don’t think any of his peers gave him a hard time about the coatless issue. I am not sure why anyone needs to cast themselves in the role of Fashion Police.

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n8chz

January 24, 2013

I get that cryophiles are misunderstood, but what on earth have they done to deserve being despised??

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David Bellamy

January 28, 2013

I confess that I am glad that, when I moved to Michigan for grad school, there were people who warned me in advance that I would be cold with the clothing I had. I had no conception of how much colder it could and would get there than in Tennessee where I had spent my first 20 years.

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