I want to reiterate that a persistent desire to play the savior to others, especially to those who have not explicitly asked you for help and advocacy, is a sign of cowardice and incapacity to face your psychological issues. Saviors use other people to feel self-righteous and to bully those who are not as willing to adopt the Savior role. They thrive on misery they claim they want to assuage.

11 responses to “Stop Playing the Savior”

  1. musteryou Avatar

    You mean if a stranger tells me I should do X or Y, or else I am a silly little person, this is untrue?

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    1. bloggerclarissa Avatar

      There has been a perfect example of a person who cannot create a sentence without telling complete strangers what they should do. The spectacle was sad.:-)

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      1. musteryou Avatar

        Omniscience is a tragic condition, best cured by long cold baths.

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  2. Bob Basil Avatar

    Your linked post is wonderful, BTW.

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    1. bloggerclarissa Avatar

      “Here’s the bottom line: Look for a woman who genuinely adores her mother. If she has remained trusting and vulnerable to her mother’s love, if she delights in receiving her mother’s tenderness and care, she will receive similarly from you. ”

      – Ha ha ha! This is the joke of the week. 🙂 “Trent” has many many miserable relationships awaiting him.

      Where do these completely ignorant losers come from and, more importantly, who is stupid enough to pay them for writing this garbage?

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      1. musteryou Avatar

        People just love all sorts of determinism. It makes them feel safe and secure inside. As you point out, this is unwarranted.

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        1. bloggerclarissa Avatar

          It is telling that he is looking for a woman who has not relinquished a little girl’s role. He doesn’t want an adult. He wants a naive little child.

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          1. musteryou Avatar

            Ah, yes, you have just interpreted the strangeness for me.

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  3. hkatz Avatar

    It’s because of “Saviors” that I’ve come to hate the expression ‘good intentions.’ I’ve heard it so many times from people who’ve hurt me and who’ve refused to examine the consequences of their actions, instead hiding behind the claim that they meant well and that I should be more grateful to them.

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