Clarissa's Blog

For days, I’ve been seeing the following idiotic quote pop up in one blog after another:

I find that men have this quality that women don’t have where, if I like a guy and I think he’s hot, that’s it. I don’t ask my friends if he’s hot. You know? I have very different taste in men than my friends and my family. There’s never an overlap. And they’ve never checked with me to see if he’s hot. But with men, there is this constant checking in.

Just go to the link and observe the sad long list of the losers in the sexual arena who are happily reblogging this stupid statement.

In reality, the need to seek approval for one’s sexual choices is not in any way linked to gender. It is linked to overbearing parents who have destroyed one’s decision-making mechanisms and appropriated one’s body as their possession. Mature people face this realization and work to resolve their issue. Immature people construct some idiotic gender difference myth on top of their very personal problem to hide it from view.