Clarissa's Blog

Dan Savage published a hilarious letter from a guy who says his dates run away from him after he confesses that he used to cheat on his wife:

But after four sexless years of marriage, I strayed. Crying myself to sleep every night took its toll, and I self-medicated with casual sex with attractive women. Two years and 20 women later, I got caught. I don’t hide the facts; I own my mistakes. I’ve grown and learned from my mistakes. But it’s hard for most women to see past “cheater.”

The poor creep doesn’t stop to think that maybe what’s scaring the dates is the extraordinarily low IQ and the non-existent self-awareness a 35 – year-old man needs to possess to first cry himself to sleep every night for 4 years (!) and then to concoct the entirely idiotic phrase “self-medicated with sex.”

And I’m not even starting on what it tells about him that he’d stay in a “marriage” where there’s no sex for 4 years.

Of course, Savage ‘ s response is even more stupid. Savage suggests that the wife’s libido died because the husband wasn’t “helping with the kids.” I understand that Savage has no personal reason to be knowledgeable about female sexuality but he could still try to inform himself.