The best way to be really unhappy at work is to integrate the job into your identity.
Happy workers go to work (metaphorically speaking, because many people work from home) in order to do their job, get paid and then go home.
Unhappy workers go to work to feel a certain way, experience a certain range of emotions, and foster a certain sense of self. And in this way, they set themselves up for disappointment and heartache because a sense of self can’t be found at work and brought home. It has to be carried around inside one and brought to work or anywhere one goes.
Look, folks, I love my job more than any other academic I know. I love everything about it – the students, the colleagues, the campus, the research. I don’t like the governor of Illinois but he’s only part of academia inasmuch as he’s part of the state where my piece of academia happens to be located at the moment.
However, I’m not my job. I’m not emotionally or existentially attached to it. If for whatever reason I couldn’t be an academic any longer, this would not impact my sense of self. Because the sense of self does not reside at work. It resides inside me.
If you are younger than me and have no idea what I’m on about, that’s fine. This comes with age in most, except for some very fortunate and psychologically healthy, people.

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