The reason why the overwhelming majority of divorces is initiated by women is that men are socialized not to consider themselves competent to manage their personal lives. They simply don’t know how to determine whether it’s time to get divorced.
Men who initiate divorces are usually better educated and / or more comfortable with managing their emotions.
“The reason why the overwhelming majority of divorces is initiated by women is…”
Men realize that if they get a divorce, they’re going to have to find somebody else to cook and clean for them.
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Yes, it’s absolutely true that marriage benefits men a lot more. That’s why women never propose.
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Divorce Rape by women of the men they once loved or supposedly loved is an all too common phenomenom. My son who should have been married with children by now is still enjoying the foot loose and fancy free life of a bachelor. He’s had a string of girlfriends, some of whom I really liked and would have hoped he would have seen fit to settle down with her, BUT he’s seen too many friends and relatives taken for every last dime by vindictive ex-wives and a corrupt family court system, and he refuses to take part in that nonsense.
I’m not trolling here. I just want to let you know that there is another side to this story.
Good luck ladies in trying to find a man who is willing to marry you.
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Actually, women are not looking a whole lot. Since the early 1980s all dating services are filled with men who are looking for marriage and women who are not. It’s a well-known phenomenon.
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How well known is it?
I have to view this statement with extreme scepticism — I’ve been watching some American television, and I see adverts for Match.com that feature women in their twenties who can obviously get dates, but who would prefer something a bit better managed in terms of quality.
I don’t use such a thing, of course — I have a place where I meet reasonably nice women, and it’s called Devon. 🙂
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The reason why the overwhelming majority of divorces is initiated by women is that men are socialized not to consider themselves competent to manage their personal lives
Many men get more out of a bad marriage than women get out of a good one.
There’s a wall in my uncle’s house with wedding day pictures of himself and all of his siblings. The men, uniformly look thrilled to be married. The women all look dazed with an “oh shit, now what’s going to happen?” face.
I get a lot of dudes who are all, “I haven’t finalized the divorce, but I’m looking for a girl RIGHT now.” No.
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When I was a young man in my senior year of medical school, many of my classmates (all male in those days) were foolish enough to think that it was time for them to get married, and I remember a repeating scenario distinctly.
When I saw the my male classmates and their prospective brides together in the days before the wedding, the girls were all poised and calm, well prepared for the day that they’d researched all their lives.
The young men were all scared shitless, trembling like leaves in the winter wind about to be blown off the tree.
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Married men live longer than single men. Single women live longer than married women. It’s not surprising that men are so much more into marriage.
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It’s a fact. But statistical trends exist to be beaten by exceptional individuals, so let’s not despair!
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I guess doctors don’t know everything after all:
The Positive Effects of Marriage
Why do married men live longer than single men? There are a number of reasons. Men that are not married, divorced, or widowed don’t eat as well as married men. Married men have wives that make home cooked meals on a regular basis.
In addition to not eating healthy cooked meals, men who are not married are less likely to exercise. Most unmarried men tend to smoke and drink a lot more and partake in risky behaviors.
Are you married to an educated woman? If you have an educated wife that’s even better, as a 2009 study revealed that men married to highly educated women have a much lower death rate. In 2002, a study demonstrated that men who had a more educated wife had a reduced incidence of coronary artery disease.
http://healthresearchfunding.org/married-men-live-longer-single-men/
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There also isn’t anybody to force single men to see a doctor.
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@Dark Avenger
Your quote left out this part of the article:
However, a British study of 9,011 civil servants also showed that being in a stressful relationship could increase the risk of heart attacks and angina by 34% — suggestion that marriage can have its downsides.
Besides, nothing in that article applies to single doctors — we know how to take care of ourselves and invariably live to a ripe old age! 🙂
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Sounds like someone is becoming increasingly unhappy in her marriage. Looking forward to your divorce announcement and subsequent rationalization of why your marriage failed. I’ll just be reckless and guess right now – “his fault.” Your constant drumbeat of female supremacy is really tiring. And you do know that the original study finding that men benefitted from marriage and women did not, just like a whole bunch of social sciences “research,” was found upon reexamination of the data to be badly misrepresented?
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I know you’ll be shocked but some people are capable of engaging with reality outside of their own limited experience.
And my marriage, like pretty much all feminist marriages, is absolutely blissful. 🙂 🙂
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I can support what Clarissa says — both my husband and I are feminists, and our marriage is also blissful.
Especially when I look around at the marriages of my coevals, not to mention my relatives who aren’t feminist, I’m astonished at how much better our relationship is.
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Hmmm. In the 1960’s and 1970’s the women I knew thought that when a man began divorce proceedings he was dodging his responsibilities, whereas when a woman began divorce proceedings she was being self-actualized and assertive. Put simply, women were praised for divorcing while men were castigated.
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