I, for one, am uncharacteristically not angry, I’m disappointed. People don’t even try to think past the crap they read in glossy magazines.
Being female means nothing other than having a female body. Being male means nothing other than having a male body. Consequently, “pure femininity” is pure, undiluted comfort with one’s female body entirely irrespective of one’s aggression, etc or lack thereof. “Pure masculinity” is pure, undiluted comfort with one’s male body entirely irrespective of one’s aggression, etc or lack thereof.
An extremely angry, domineering woman will be perceived as ultra-feminine by everyone if she is clearly comfortable with her body. An extremely passive, weak woman will be perceived as very unfeminine if she’s visibly uncomfortable with her body. And it’s exactly the same for men. We can all think of a million and one examples of this.
The reason why people so often slip into the language of personal characteristics when discussing physiological realities is their puritanical fear of the body. They observe and react to bodies but can’t admit this. As a result, they try to push the purely physiological into the realm of the ideological. This is nothing but the tired old belief in the mind / body split that should have be abandoned a long time ago.
As you can see, pure femininity and pure masculinity are not “opposites of one another”, as the linked author states. They are exactly the same in nature. All that is needed to recognize this is to lose the fear of the word “body.” We are not female or male in the head. We are female or male much lower down. Which is precisely the reason why transgender people never seek brain surgery and the intersex are people with unusual genitals, not unusual brains.
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