There are people who belong to the school of “you need to hold the baby all the time!” And there are those who belong to the school of “you need to hold the baby as little as possible.”
When you suggest that there is also the possibility of holding or not holding the baby whenever you and she feel like it, both groups get very agitated and start quoting bibliographies at you.
Human beings are capable of spoiling even the most enjoyable experience for themselves.
Best scientific evidence / estimates say somewhere around 110-120 billion humans have ever walked this earth… and none of them read baby books or cited statistics until the last50 years, and probably not many before the last 20 years.
You (and others) with basic intelligence and instinct will do just fine on your own. Read and listen to otehrs occasionally, but most of the time you can get 30 different opinions on anything child related.
Its sort of like where everyone thinks they know a teachers job because they were a student but on steroids since everyone was a kid and many have been /are parents 🙂
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“Best scientific evidence / estimates say somewhere around 110-120 billion humans have ever walked this earth… and none of them read baby books or cited statistics until the last50 years, and probably not many before the last 20 years.”
GOOD point.
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Thank your lucky stars. When you have a child with a disability, it’s much, much worse and it never stops. I was at a funeral on Sunday and the barest of acquaintances started telling me what I should be doing for my high school-aged son. I hissed at her until she backed off into the crowd. Everyone’s an expert.
No one should say anything other than an open ended question along the lines of “How is it going?” Or “What is the biggest surprise of motherhood for you?” And then they should nod and smile at the answer.
Unless of course there is such abuse suspected that you feel the need to call child protective services and make an anonymous complaint. But that is not what we are discussing here.
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I agree 100%! And gosh, I’m sorry people are being so obnoxious about your kid.
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It think the root cause is bad ego boundaries. People do not understand what is not their business because they have no idea where they end and rest of world begins.
There was a reason the old advice columnist Dear Abby was always telling people “to mind your own bees wax.”
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Saw a recommendation of this article RE motherhood:
Адоньева С. Б. Материнство: мифология и социальный институт
http://algalagan.livejournal.com/294343.html
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