On weekends, I get to sleep until 11 am. I have the best husband ever.
Single people: follow my example and never settle for anybody but the person who will be perfect for you. Every day of married life brings endless opportunities to grow to detest your partner, and only an absolute, dumb, gooey love for them will save you from that.
This is absolutely rock solid advice. If men or women compromise and or lower their standards in their search for a partner, then the resentment or the thought of “could I have done better” will slowly build to the point where the marriage will collapse.
Your standards must be realistic of course and a mutual acceptance of the foibles of the other is necessary as well.
On the other hand I’ve advised young men to carefully vette their future wives as in today’s world, more than 75% of divorces are initiated by women. A divorce-rape is devastating to men as they will lose access to the children, their home and car will be taken away, and their salary will be garnisheed by a rapacious family court system.
I sometimes wonder if, a revision of the old saying is more appropriate to today’s world:
'Tis better to have never loved,
than to have loved and lost it all in a frivolous divorce
I am very glad that you and your partner have a wonderful marriage. I just wish it were more universally true.
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“A divorce-rape”
My god. Way to turn a sweet post about marital bliss into fucking MRA propaganda. No wonder you people are unfuckable. Kudos to all the women who wise up and leave your sorry asses.
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It is more of a wish that once a man and woman get together, and commit to each other then that commitment would last a lifetime.
While Clarissa’s forum contributers and I are at opposite ends of the political spectrum and I get routinely shot down on this blog, my only wish is for Clarissa to be truly happy.
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Look at this victim over here!
Listen, you seem to have been raised by wolves, so let me teach you something: when someone is expressing joy about their life and relationships you do not reply with tales of ‘divorce-rape’ and family courts and wage garneeshing [sic]. Like, don’t even use the word rape. Not every occasion is an opportunity to air out your sob story. Behavior like this may be normal in your MRA circles but it looks very weird to the rest of us.
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On this occasion you are probably right. While I would never wish upon you, Clarissa or others the bitter experiences I’ve been through, I did want to state that Clarissa’s advice is generally spot on. The selection of your partner in life should not be taken lightly. When things work out then it’s absolutely great, when it doesn’t … hence the reason for caution.
But enough! Let me just take this opportunity to wish Clarissa and yourself All the Best in Life.
p.s. I’m not an MRA, nor have I joined the ranks of the unfuckables 😉
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I’ve been divorced, and yes, divorce sucks. Getting married at 19 is a dumb thing to do for most people. And I was not a mature 19.
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I heartily agree with this advice. I met my husband when I was 34 and got married at the ripe old age of 38. And I couldn’t be happier with my marriage. When it’s the right one, marriage is a wonderful and uplifting thing.
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My marriage has seen its share of obstacles, but when it comes down to it, hubby and I are really, truly perfect for each other. It has not always been easy, but he does things like letting me sleep in on the weekend — or even on a Monday, when he knows that I was up late writing a lecture. (He woke me up at 7:15 today, instead of 6:30, since I was up past midnight, and then took the kids to school so I could get my act together in a leisurely way.) It’s the little things!
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