The psychoanalytic theory of the good life in very simple terms:
The goal of growing up is to figure out what constitutes your authentic self and then live in a way that’s true to it. But if you aren’t loved enough, it won’t happen. You’ll hide who you really are in order to be accepted. Over time, this fakery will take a huge toll, and you’ll need to seek a specialist to redo the “loved enough” process retroactively.