Ghosting is code for “I want all people except for myself to be easily discardable and willing to be used and thrown away.”
“I’m a special cookie and you are less valuable than a Kleenex” is the default neoliberal worldview. If you’ve been following the West Elm Caleb drama, this way of thinking is in full view. The abandoned damsels who pride themselves on going through guys like a smoker in a windy street goes through matches are incensed that a guy copy-pasted playlists and messages he sent to a large cohort of female dates.
It’s normal and healthy to see oneself as special, precious, and deserving of the best. Where the system breaks down is where people become incapable of noticing that everybody else feels just as special and unique.
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