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Dating Insights

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I’m shocked, veritably shocked that somebody actually has something true to say about dating:

Every species has mating rituals. If those rituals are not disrupted, they will mate. If they are disrupted, they will not mate.

This is why a cattery run by a middle aged housewife in her own home can breed Occicats, Russian Blues, or Bengals, but the best zoos in the world can’t make two pandas into three pandas.

The basic mating ritual of human beings does not begin with a man cold approaching a strange woman.

It begins with a woman covertly signalling a willingness to be approached, either to a specific man, or in general. Only then is the man supposed to respond with an overt approach.

And the most important part:

Women want men they like to approach them, but they have no idea that it’s their responsibility to make this happen.

https://x.com/Devon_Eriksen_/status/1949169427062173810?t=dsORlSSLX9vXo2pigzu56g&s=19

Another problem is that many people are deeply dishonest with themselves about what it is they want to be approached for. Almost the entirety of #MeToo was the product of this dishonesty.

4 responses to “Dating Insights”

  1. Stringer Bell Avatar
    Stringer Bell

    I like Devon Ericksen. He’s very sharp.

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  2. Avi Avatar
    Avi

    Almost the entirety of #MeToo was the product of this dishonesty.

    Best insight into the #MeToo madness.

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    1. oldcowboy3 Avatar
      oldcowboy3

      Avi

      That madness, the lack of reason, the incompacity to assess or measure is not limited to the MeToo era. Wollstonecraft, Stanton, Pankhurst, de Beauvoir, Friedan — all same, same, too self-absorbed to even begin to grasp that it might take two to tangle ;-D

      One guy in the link mentioned that folk dancing might help, I agree and start it at about grade five and six, because girls will begin earlier. Back when the dinosaurs still roamed, the women in my family taught the boys and girls how to approach and respond politely using dancing as a format. It was still scary, but we at least had some practice. It takes much, much longer to give/receive visual cues e.g., batting eyes followed with the shy peek under eye lashes to see if he had noticed her.

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      1. Clarissa Avatar
        Clarissa

        A cute related anecdote. A boy who likes my niece sent his friend to tell her that he likes her but is too shy to approach. But if she approaches him, he’ll respond positively.

        My niece asked her mom if it’s a good idea to approach the boy. Mom said, absolutely not. This reeks of female desperation, she said. Thankfully, the girl listened to the advice. Parental guidance is very important.

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