Are these people mental?
Or do you think organic brain damage? Because if two adults need 4 hours to get a toddler to pick up a carrot, the only excuse they have is if they are severely retarded. Or sadists.
Then everybody goes, “they were such a normal family. It’s incomprehensible why the kid became a heroin addict / shot up a school. It must be completely random.”
What would you do in this situation?
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Google a psychiatrist and make an urgent appointment for me and the dad.
At age 2 they drop everything all the time because motor skills aren’t there yet, and if you are this triggered, seek help. Especially if it’s a little red phallic object that is causing both parents simultaneously to lose it.
Speaking of phallic, this tweet won the Internet today:.
https://x.com/i/status/2010474296955556325
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Sorry, I thought the kid was 4, not 2. No question then. 🙂
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Yes, it’s 4 hours, 2 years old.
Is it possible he mistyped? Because 4yo, of course, a different situation entirely.
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Oh. OK, I rest my case then.
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That is equally abnormal. We are talking about parents with no solid sense of self in both cases. They can’t assume parental authority and this freaks out the kids.
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tbf, Scott’s was just a long post of cute toddler-twin stories, of the sort that any parent has*. But the rationalists can’t just laugh at funny little-kid stories being well told by a good writer, no, they have to make it into a theory of everything.
*And twins are a whole ‘nother ballgame from singletons. I’d go fix one disaster and while I was doing so, they’d create a new one. The thing is, with kids of different ages, you’ll get the younger one who isn’t quite able to do the plot, or the older one who realizes that the plot = getting in trouble. But with twins, no matter the one’s hare-brained scheme, the other’s response is only “Brilliant!”
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My daughter is 7 months old, and I already see she won’t be always obedient as a toddler.
For instance, if I put her with her toys and start leaving the room, she starts crying. Wants an adult to be near her all the time, and preferrably to hold her on his hands too.
When we change her diapers / clothes, she immediately tries to turn on her stomack and start moving. The one trick that helps is to give her a sock or something similar to hold. And I thought older children were easier to change than newborns!
Do not know about my own authority, but my mother definitely has one and Maya does the same with her too.
Of course, I would not start such a struggle over a carrot. As my mother says, it is important to preserve a child’s nervous system, and not try breaking a child or raising a hysterical one.
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You don’t want her to always be obedient, though, right? You want her to be decisive, know her own mind, set her own goals and achieve them. Now is when she’s becoming that kind of person.
As a parent, it’s a lot easier to get the child to do what you want her to if you limit the number of such things. Always ask yourself, is this really important? Why am I insisting? Why shouldn’t she do it her way? If you give her a lot of authority over her own actions, it will be so much easier firmly to demand things that are really important.
As for her wanting to be held, please don’t worry. Klara was like that to the point where I was joking that I dreamt of long solitary walks to the bathroom. It really took a while before I could use the bathroom without her hanging off my neck. And now she’s the most independent kid you can imagine. It’s a stage. She’s going to be out of it eventually.
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