The first time I worked a full-time job was in the summer when I was fifteen. My dad found me a job in the office of one of his clients. I wasn’t allowed to keep any of the money I made, but I loved it. The business owner was this big, gruff dude who was so eager to have a business of his own (and remember, this was very early post-Soviet times) that he learned to speak fluent Italian in order to be able to communicate with his customers.

It felt cool to have a job, to dress up every day and go sit there in front of a computer. I loved the experience. This is why I don’t understand parents who don’t allow their teenage children to work. I already know several such cases, all boys between ages 16 and 18. This is so strange to me. In the cases I know, this is not an issue of not having transportation. Rather, it’s an issue of mom saying that she’d rather her little treasure have a childhood instead of having to go out to work.

My 16-year-old niece worked a full-time job this summer. She loved it. It was a wonderful experience. It made her feel more grown, organized, and proud of her growing competence. She doesn’t have a car, so it was public transportation on a long journey there and back. Still, she loved it. Isn’t that the normal thing?

I sincerely don’t get it.

6 responses to “Teenagers and Work”

  1. donbenham Avatar
    donbenham

    Absolutely important and useful to have a job as a teen. Beginning of independence, self reliance, and in my case, provided spending money. My parents sure didn’t give me any!

    Like

  2. methylethyl Avatar

    This is a form of child neglect: failure to prepare your child for adulthood.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Peter Avatar
      Peter

      I agree, and similarly to academic lurker’s comment yesterday here I wish someone had commiserated with the mother and asked what the process was for dealing with the special educational needs of the adult at college (university) who needed to be woken by his mother each day.

      Like

  3.  Avatar
    Anonymous

    I also got my first job at 15. Working in a movie theatre, part time during the school year and more during the summer. It was a great experience and also cool to have my own money and bank account (I forget the details, but I’m sure my parents had to co-sign something at the bank). On the other hand, the smell of that synthetic “butter” that movie theatres put on popcorn nauseates me to this day…

    Even among upper middle class families like mine, this used to be normal in the US back in the 80s. I’m not sure when it changed.

    Like

    1.  Avatar
      Anonymous

      The above comment is from the commenter formerly known as AcademicLurker.

      Like

Leave a comment

A conservative literary critic and college professor