Children are traumatized by the truth about Santa in only one situation. If they perceive that there’s a foundational lie in the fabric of the family and don’t know how to verbalize it, they use Santa as a way of showing their discomfort with the actual lie.
For example, if one of the parents is cheating. That’s the trauma. The child intuits it but doesn’t know what it is that is bothering him. When he says “You lied to me!”, it’s not about Santa. It’s the actual, terrible dishonesty in the family that is bothering him.




