First of all, the great thing with children is that, for as long as everybody is living, the concept of “too late” doesn’t apply.
The second important point is that you didn’t damage your children. General bad behavior at these ages means they are trying to get you plugged into them. It’s not the amount of time you spend around then that will work but the intensity of the plug-in. If you have only two hours after work to plug into them, that’s good. It’s much better than spending all day glued to them physically without the plug-in. Put away the device, access the depths of your self and open it up to them. Be massively present in the moment.
If they are acting up in these bad behaviors, it’s a good sign. They want you and your attention. This means you are a good, valuable parent. Children are very smart. They don’t demand attention from a bad parent. A bad parent is dangerous to them and they sit very quietly, trying to attract no attention. All you need to do is learn to open yourself to them in a way that’s enjoyable to you. Your guilt and anxiety don’t help them.
Start small. Do 20 intense minutes of goofing around, ideally doing something physical. Imagine yourself as a power cord that’s connected into an outlet. Channel your attention and energy into them. You’ll know it’s working when you feel that this is really you, your actual deep self is coming out and connecting to them. Don’t manage the symptoms (i.e. specific bad behaviors).
Another good exercise is to imagine yourself as a jug filled with love and attention. Pour the contents into the three little cups that your children are. The cups are bottomless. You’ll never fill them completely. Do as much as you can.
Universal suffrage in the age of social media is a recipe for disaster. Look what’s happening to these poor people who could have had good, normal lives in olden times and now they have their already tiny brains eaten completely.
I’m traveling, so I didn’t watch the first day of the RNC. From the snippets I read, I want to hit my head against a wall. I know it was inevitable that Trump would say unnecessary things. The unnecessary things are the price you pay for the good stuff. But the part about giving $5,000 to every American is really unnecessary. It is already impossible to explain to regular people how COVID payouts caused inflation. This is making it worse.
Yes, Biden engaged in the same kind of voter bribery, but so what? It doesn’t mean we need to stoop to the level of Biden. And yes, Trump is a lot more equitable in his voter bribery, promising to reward every American and not specifically his voters, like Biden did. But again, whoop-dee-doo. Even a suggestion of another round of devaluing the dollar gives me a panic attack.
This is the best Freida McFadden I have read so far. It’s even funny in parts. It’s about a female dermatologist cat lady who gets shot in the head and suffers brain damage. There’s an evil husband and a noble, sweet suitor, and even a brave smart kitty named Kitty. There are fascinating descriptions of rehab activities for people with brain damage.
No, really, it reads great. I learned a lot about brain damage. And I promise, I’m not trying to make it sound boring on purpose. This isn’t remotely a boring book.
The novel also has a good overarching idea which is that if you are messed in the head psychologically, that’s worse than having half of your actual brain blown off. The female dermatologist is a ball of neurotic self-esteem issues long before the brain injury. She suffers from the permanently bitten ego that so many women drag around. It’s the exact opposite type of womanhood from mine, and it fascinates me to observe it. I have no idea what makes many women so obsessed with finding imperfections in themselves and organizing their lives around feeling bad about those imperfections.
A very entertaining novel. A perfect book to slide into the autumn.
My university is experiencing record enrollments. We are 50% over last year’s numbers. We are not at the peak enrollment we had in 2011 but that was during a bad recession, and people always go back to school during recessions. We are almost at the 2011 peak. This is happening right as everybody else is losing students because of demographics and a good job market.
Why is this happening?
Last year, my university invited a very talented dude to organize our recruitment. That dude was a brilliant salesman. He got lured away from us after a few months because somebody with his talent will always be sought after. But in the several months he was with us the dude reorganized our entire system, and the results are stunning.
Everybody is complaining and whining, and then one hardworking, talented person comes and bends reality to his will.
At the Bernabéu in Madrid today, people raised the flag of Ceuta in solidarity with the victims:
I will not go into detail here because I have an early flight to catch, but I’ll simply say that this is a big deal. Once you’ve got the support of the soccer fans at the Bernabéu, it’s a really big deal. Madrid is not abandoning the ceutíes.
Soccer fans are actually amazing. Back in 2014, it was the soccer fans in my native city of Kharkiv who beat back an invasion attempt by the Russians. When I say “beat back,” I mean that literally.
I went to a nail salon today, and they had the British version of Deal or No Deal on the TV. People, it’s hilarious. Cultural differences are real.
The prize amounts are tiny. People get ridiculously excited over very small prizes. “£5,500 is a hell of a lot of money!” People are extremely low in emotion. Everything is very quiet and steady. There are no gorgeous, scantily clad women. Nobody dances, screams, yells, weeps, or emotes in any way. It’s cute but soporific.
“normal America” I bet Canadians love that… good training for becoming a state, I guess.
C’mon Kid, “money for nothing , and the chicks checks for free” — all same, same ;-D https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6iJ-4WolLD0
Well Kid, if one wants to gauge future inflation, watch the price of diesel.
Exactly. Those $5,000 payouts to every American that Trump promises will have to be printed. This will immediately drop the…
Exactly. Those $5,000 payouts to every American that Trump promises will have to be printed. This will immediately drop the…
I see two people have already down-voted Clarissa’s post. Which says to me that those two don’t understand how finance…
Merciful heavens. Again?
Ah! That’s good to know, thank you! This is a writer who bridges generational gaps. My 16yo niece and I…
FWIW, Freda McFadden (pen name; actual name is Sara Cohen) is an actual MD specializing in brain disorders and injuries.…
I feel so bad for Germans. It’s such a wonderful country and they are pissing it away.
Not much but I work in academia. There are brain dead people all over the place. Jokes aside, I have…
The dude clearly fears he’ll fall out of a window, like happens to all Putin’s cronies, so he took measures…
How much do you read about brain damage normally? I’m tempted to read this from your review because it sounds…
“part of it, but I believe there’s something else” Probably a lot of things, but if you go back in…
I’m dead … What happened?
Oh I didn’t know that a majority of Germans wants nuclear back by now! Thanks for the information, that is…
All I’m suggesting in these posts on AfD is that in a democracy political parties should only exist to do…
55% of Germans favor returning to nuclear power, versus 36% opposed. Of the 55%, 22% want the recently closed reactors…
The reason people are afraid of nuclear power is psychological. When I was a child, I experienced the deep fear…
Between 5 and 8 reactors in Germany can be reactivated. All that’s needed is a political decision.
A lot of it stems from a movie called The China Syndrome. Walnut
In theory yes, but rebuilding nuclear is a long process. And Russian hydrocarbons are a much quicker fix, provided that…
Yes, exactly. The Club of Rome has a lot to answer for.
Actually much of it came from the Club Of Rome’s 1972 The Limits to Growth. The hysteria never ends, the…
Irene Montero actually had the gall to compare these Moroccans to Ukrainian refugees. Ukrainian men over the age of 23…
No, it makes no sense, nuclear and natural gas are the two most “green” energy sources available. But public trust…
I’m sure this is part of it, but I believe there’s something else. This deliberate avoidance of something that could…
“They don’t look very starving to me” Not as long as dolphins swim in the mediterranean… “no war in Morocco…
“an anybody explain to me how the obsessive hatred of nuclear energy somehow became the green approach?” I think it…
I left a long comment to this post, but the system ate it. That is so unfair.
No, it means nuclear. The war on nuclear energy needs to stop. Can anybody explain to me how the obsessive…
Leftists in Spain insist that these Moroccan migrants are starving refugees of war. They don’t look very starving to me.…
Cheap energy in the German context means Russian energy. So you probably would not approve of other political parties fixing…
Meanwhile in Ceuta: https://x.com/DailyMail/status/2096224314735362147 (that’s of course just the ones that have been charged. And in Massachusetts: https://x.com/DMAnews1/status/2095890554840027258 Cultural enrichers…
I suppose it’s weird because it’s more common for women to get men to do their killing for them. https://insidepolitic.co.za/rosemary-ndlovu-co-accused-nomsa-mudau-guilty-of-plot-to-kill-mudaus-husband/
Oh darn, an anonymous downvote, I am crushed ;-D
“What did the British people do to be punished this way?” Hmmm, well their leaders appear to have forgotten the…
Sadly, they may be exchanging one kind of migration for another. Slovakia is learning that the hard way right now.…
A Syrian patriarch in the real sense of the word: he and his family have been getting over €100 000…
“Fanatically” is exactly the word for it. I read the other day about this Muslim guy in Germany who got…