Or, and here is a fresh thought, you can do fitness, home maintenance, personal development, and entertainment together with the kids. They are not in diapers for the entire 18 years, are they? Your kid is there while you’re living your life. These are not separate bins that have to be done separately.

Until the end of this month, I am in a regular office job. Since school let out in May, my daughter has been at work with me every day. And I’m not suffering in any way or suspending any of my regular activities. This is a great learning opportunity for my child because she observes my life and gets important lessons from witnessing my daily behavior. For example, I accidentally forgot to scan a jar of pickles at the store because it was at the bottom of the shopping cart and I didn’t see it. The next time we were at the store, I made a point of scanning a jar of pickles twice because, as I explained to my child, stealing is wrong. No amount of lectures on the importance of honesty could send the message as effectively as having the kid actually witness the parent practicing these principles on a daily basis.

In addition, once the kid is past the early childhood stage, she starts helping. The quoted post makes it sound like you have to do all of the housework and everything completely by yourself, even when the kids are teenagers. But that’s nuts. A family can’t run this way. The normal situation is when everybody contributes and does that gladly.

As for working out, kids love physical activity. I’ve never done as much physical activity in my life as I do with my child because she enjoys it and constantly encourages me to do something active. Even with babies, there are strollers for running, there are bikes with attachments for toddlers. There are all kinds of things. N bought a yearly membership at the local trampoline park and goes there regularly with Klara. He wouldn’t go by himself because a middle-aged man jumping on the trampolines by himself would be creepy. He is in the best shape of his life since the time when he quit martial arts. Yesterday, we spent the evening playing badminton in the driveway, and again, this is something we probably wouldn’t be assed to do without our child’s encouragement.

Yes, your lifestyle changes a lot when the kids are very little. But what people seem to forget is that this early stage is not that long. Gradually, you get all of your favorite activities back and gain a new, very eager partner to participate in them.

I was afraid of having children because everybody, including my own mother, told me endlessly that my life would end and would never be fun again. And it was all completely untrue. We should share stories about how having kids is great and actually enhances your life and makes all of your favorite activities even better. Because it’s true. In my kid, I have a personal trainer, a stylist, a decorator, a dietician, a conversation partner, and a wonderful witness to my life. And yes, it got hairy for a bit some years ago when she learned to get out of her bed and developed a habit of visiting me several times in the middle of the night, hovering over my bed. But no kid does that for 18 years straight.

Of course, people are going to say, “Ha ha, wait until she’s a teenager, and she will not want to spend time with you at all.” But that’s crap. My sister’s daughter is sixteen. She has a job, a boyfriend, and a very successful dancing career. I have not met a happier, better-adjusted, more normal teenager in my life. And guess what? She loves spending time with her mother. She thinks her mother is mega cool. They have a very profound relationship and spend tons of time together. And yes, she’s a normal teenager, so sometimes she gets pissy, moody, and grumpy. So what? The relationship is still there, and it’s still amazing.

My own father died when he was seventy and I was in my forties. Until the day he died, spending time with him was one of the most enjoyable things in my life. So no, it doesn’t go away when children grow up, or it doesn’t have to.

Ultimately, it’s such a short sacrifice of a couple of years of disrupted sleep and having to lug around a heavy backpack with kids’ things to gain such a wealth of joy, love, and amazing experiences.

Observing the events depicted in my previous post and contrasting them to what happened in Iran, we have to conclude that the U.S. military is grievously, woefully behind in what concerns modern warfare.

The U.S. military was never much good, having lost every war it participated in for a hundred years. The U.S. won in World War II only as a result of gifting half of Europe to Stalin. (If you believe that this is untrue, then you must think that half of Europe was handed over to Stalin for absolutely no gain. That makes the situation worse. So take your pack.)

The defeat in Iran is, of course, strategic in the sense that the initial plan was stupid and not grounded in reality. The idea that the Iranian people would rise up if the leadership of the country were eliminated was moronic, and as we all have seen, nothing like this remotely happened. On the military level, the war was waged in the most unproductive, outdated, ridiculous way, where extremely expensive missiles were used for no purpose and no visible gain. There was an outlandish degree of gullibility in regards to Israel.

None of this matters by itself because Iran is utterly unimportant both to our country specifically and at the global level. But for our future preparedness to defend ourselves and advance our interests, this should be an enormous wake-up call. With the truly outlandish budget that our military has, it should be able to produce better results. Or any results other than a humiliating defeat at the hands of some 3rd-rate silly theocracy

If people think I am being harsh, I recommend they read the MOU between the US and Iran. It’s capitulation, and Iran is not the one capitulating. We are extremely fortunate that this unpreparedness was revealed in such a minor, unimportant conflict. There is a great opportunity for learning and improvement, and I hope that opportunity is used.

We never saw Ukrainian attacks of this kind on Russian territory during the Biden administration because Biden didn’t allow them. Or whoever was there in reality instead of Biden.

Now, on the other hand, the destruction of the Russian oil industry and military infrastructure by long-distance precise Ukrainian strikes is a daily occurrence. Neither civilians nor cultural objects are ever attacked. I personally do not support that, but that’s how Ukraine is choosing to conduct its retaliation strikes.

This is exactly how I ended up with diabetes.

Both of my children had their own personalities while in the womb. Different personalities that liked different things. Honestly, I was not prepared for that at all. With Klara, I had to walk an enormous lot because she didn’t like it when I would sit or lie down and would kick me ferociously to get me on the move. Incidentally, this was exactly what I needed for my health and to be able to carry to term.

Eric, on the other hand, was indifferent to my walking. What he loved is when I taught. I felt a wave of well-being radiating from him whenever I would enter the classroom.

With Klara, whenever I would get even a little bit anxious about whether she was still there, she would start fluttering and later kicking to calm me down. People asked me how I managed to deal with the anxiety of the second pregnancy, but in reality there was no anxiety because my baby helped me throughout the entire process. The very first time I felt Klara kick was when I was on the phone with a very close friend who told me that she had a terminal cancer diagnosis. I felt desperate and devastated, but at that moment my baby fluttered inside me for the very first time, as if to remind me that I had something to live for.

Klara is now 10, and this cooperative, helpful, considerate personality is exactly what she is like.

So, yes, right, imaginary friends. Tell me more about that.

This isn’t only the British press. We’ve had years of utterly inane debates about affirmative consent, the non-existent campus rape epidemic, the mattress girl, the ridiculous #MeToo, all created purposefully to distract attention from these horrific rape networks.

Our capacity even to know about this hinges entirely on the good health and longevity of Elon Musk. Thankfully, he’s not old, but he’s not eternal either. The British government is putting measures in place to ensure that citizens cannot post freely on the only remaining free social media network. The ideological control is consolidating. We are fortunate that we still have a way of finding out about things like this report. I am not sure that that capacity will be preserved for a long time.

A tiny excerpt from the Pakistani rape gangs report released yesterday:

There are many horrors described in the report most of which I’m not capable of reading. But the collusion of the authorities with the rapists is a big unifying theme. I am likely to see issues of class in everything, but here it does not make sense to appeal to class. The rapists and the victims all belong on the lowest rung of the class ladder. This is not a war of aristos against proles or vice versa.

The principle on which the authorities operate and the cultural elites still do, as they mock or dismiss the evidence of the horrific rapes, it’s clearly ethnic. White Britain decided to self-destruct. None of the explanations that have been proffered make sense. This is not guilt over the Holocaust, because nobody on the planet opposed and fought Hitler as consistently as the British.

One excellent thing about getting older is that the only type of person who can make me feel negative emotions is a medical doctor.

Unless it’s a bad diagnosis, I honestly don’t care anymore.

One thing I don’t like about today’s entertainment literature is how invested it is in the idea that a woman can be an utterly immoral, infantile and irresponsible princess but, no matter how middle-aged, washed out, barren, and hysterical she gets, there is always going to be an extremely positive, very single, high-earning and attractive man willing to baby her for all eternity. No matter how badly she mistreats that good man, he will sit there, patiently waiting for her to come back after crowds of other boyfriends and will be eager to produce wads of bank notes the second she needs them to disentangle herself from some other dude.

It is fashionable to mock the Cinderella fantasy, but the fantasy I describe is a lot worse. At least Cinderella was hard-working, modest, and kind. What we have instead is the Cinderella fantasy for the evil stepsisters. It’s the idea that you can be an absolute load of crap and still have a happy ending with the magical prince.

I am reading a novel titled I Become Her by Joe Hart. Unlike many books in the psychological thriller genre, this one is not badly written. Whoever Joe Hart is, he knows how to write. And I understand why he has to organize his novel in keeping with Evil Stepsister Fantasy. This is what sells. Joe Hart’s readers are female, and they like the idea that consequences or responsibility do not exist.

The reason why the Trump administration failed to bring about a regime change in Iran is, as I said from the very beginning, that Iranians like their regime and are not interested in changing it. The only two ways towards a regime change are:

1. The people massively hate and despise the existing system (Ukraine 2013).

2. Somebody from the outside bombs the country into dust and rapes the entire population (Germany 1945).

The idea that the Iranians dislike their regime is a Western projection. In the two scenarios outlined above, regime change happens because the existing regime loses legitimacy in the eyes of the population. You cannot rule without the consent of the ruled. Once the majority of the population thinks that the regime is ridiculous and believes none of the regime’s ideology, the regime falls apart (USSR, 1991). You don’t even need to nudge it for it to fall apart. None of this happened in Iran.

There is an old saying: where there is nothing you can do, there should be nothing that you want. There is nothing we can do for Iranians or in Iran. It’s time to learn the lesson, close this chapter, and move on.