Remember our discussion regarding the school requirement for volunteer hours? We now routinely get clarifications on how to calculate volunteering hours. The clarifications look like this:
I shrank the email so that it can fit into the post. I’m not going to read it because I’ll never get that assimilated. Besides, there is going to be a fresh one soon, so why bother with this one?
I’m not sure if you can see it but there is a lot of passive-aggressive underlining and italicizing.
Yes, it’s nearly impossible to deport him. It’s just so, so, so impossible. Trump would have sent him to Africa and been done with it, but everywhere else, there are a million excuses to keep a five-time rapist around so that he can terrorize the native population.
Trump’s many defects are completely outweighed by his decisive immigration policy.
When I was an undergraduate student, we knew the most bizarre details from our professors’ lives. The gossip I could tell would fill volumes. But our students know nothing about us. The best they could do is decide that I’m married to the other Spanish professor which demonstrates a clear lack of imagination. The last bit of gossip I heard about people at work dates back to the early 2000s.
It’s social media. Nobody needs to gossip about anybody they know because they gossip about strangers. I’m not sure it’s an improvement.
“Mommy, yesterday at school we learned about hetero… hetero… something and homo-something. It was so much fun!”
Turns out they learned about heterogenous and homogenous substances.
When you come face to face with a true work of art, it’s a feeling like none other. I love my profession because I can dedicate much of my time to looking for art, experiencing art, thinking about it, and telling others about what I find. Sometimes I become a conduit through which other people find their way to great art. It’s an incredible feeling.
I had a bitch of a day. My winter course was canceled because we no longer have anybody to defend our courses since I’m not department chair anymore. I was counting on the money, but now that’s gone. A colleague acted like a total piece of shit. I had to get tested for H. pylori, which meant I had to abstain from drinking any liquids for 4 hours, which, in this heat, is very unpleasant. We are doing DIY home repairs, and the house is a mess. My mother threw a fit at me.
But then I started reading a new book, and it’s a work of art. A soul-shaking, gut-piercing work of art. And all of the small daily annoyances fall away. Because what do they matter when there are great books in the world?
That sounds cute, but this position does not lead to a good relationship between adults. It leads to a great parent-child relationship. With your child, you absolutely are the donor, emotionally, intellectually, financially, and in every other way. Parenthood is a pay-it-forward situation. You give to the child and feel joy because of the giving. And then the child will do the same for her own children, and so on.
But if you’re hoping for a relationship with another adult, be it romantic or a friendship, it is a big mistake to position yourself from the get-go as a donor who enters the relationship to bestow the munificence of your plenitude.
The best romantic relationships are complementary. They begin from humility and honesty. Without humility, a relationship is doomed. The woman in the quoted post isn’t really looking for a partner. She’s looking for an audience for whose benefit she can enact the spectacle of her perfection. But even the most talented actress needs to step off the stage every once in a while.
People say these things because they have become some sort of accepted wisdom these days. The idea is that you need to become completely self-sufficient before looking for a husband or a wife. But once you have turned yourself into a closed circuit of self-sufficiency, you ensure that there is no place for another person in this closed circuit. Self-sufficiency is a myth, anyway. People need each other. A time will always come when you run into health issues, emotional issues, financial trouble, etc. If you have created in your partner unreasonable expectations of always being able to give, give, give and ask for nothing in return, then they will understandably expect this arrangement to carry on forever.
The way out of this unhealthy dynamic is to be honest with yourself and others. Accept that you’re human and that, of course, you need things from other people. Of course, there are things in yourself that you lack, and that’s not a bad thing. It is the most normal thing imaginable.
People brainwash themselves with these superficial slogans about self-sufficiency, and they never have happy personal lives or friendships.
There is a small Canadian company that regularly brings all of its employees on all-expenses-paid trips to beautiful overseas locations. You get to stay at a villa with a swimming pool, your own bedroom, your own bathroom, and you don’t get to spend a dime. On top of getting all of the expenses covered by the company, you get paid as if you were on a regular workday. It’s a dream job.
This year, the company retreat is in Greece. Everybody is going except for one male Canadian worker. He isn’t going because his wife doesn’t allow him. She doesn’t like it when he’s away from her.
Bonus points for guessing which country the wife is from. But the point is that this is a male employee. Female employees are all going. The patriarchy has truly been vanquished, but not in a good way.
JUST IN: Toys “R” Us announces its biggest expansion in nearly a decade, opening 120 stores across the U.S. as toy sales surge among adult shoppers.
There are little colorful unicorn toys that my kid likes. She plays out long, complicated scenarios with them. The problem is that the unicorns are extremely overpriced. It says on the box that they are not toys but “collectible items.” They are very specifically aimed at adults. Every time we see them at the store, my daughter asks me why on earth an adult would want what is clearly a child’s toy.
There are also the sad dolls. These are very expensive and often very realistic dolls with sad, depressed, or weeping countenances. They are also aimed at adults. The adult section of every toy store is expanding dramatically. Often, it makes the toy stores or the areas of bookstores reserved for children practically unusable for actual children. These adult items are often branded with swear words. Being in a children’s section of a bookstore with a child has become an exercise in maneuvering in such a way that the child doesn’t see the inappropriate adult-themed stuff.
Come to think of it, what are Lindsey Clancy conspiracies or maroon sweatshirt obsessives, if not an imitation of children’s imaginative play? What does the support for Clancy indicate, if not resentment against children who are not letting adults pose as children?
Lindsay Clancy enthusiasts on TikTok are now advancing the theory that Patrick Clancy is the nanny who worked for the family. They conduct facial measurements and run simulations of how his face would look with makeup. Democracy is dead because it has been eaten by self-indulgence. The regime change already happened. It didn’t happen in the direction Yarvin wants but it is very real. In this new regime, you promise the self-indulgent, narcissistic morons free grocery stores and free “dividends”, flatter their sore egos, and that will be enough.
There is no reality any longer. Reality is whatever one feels it should be. That’s the new regime.
At the hospital, my mother behaves very normally and exactly like her regular self. The doctors are so confused by her normal state that they sent her in for a CAT scan of the brain to see if she has a brain tumor.
They could have saved a bunch of money if they’d asked me. I would have informed them that she’s been exactly like this for as long as I’ve known her.
People drive me nuts with endless repetitions of, “it’s because she’s sick she’s behaving like this. Illness changes you.” Yeah, ok, whatever, geniuses. It didn’t change her. Welcome to my world.
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Nobody pays me overtime at triple the rate of anything when I go to a conference. There’s a modest pet…
Sorry, I assumed that if it is a small company of 12 people, some of whom are in different countries,…
There is no such thing as a few decades in prison in these countries. They release everybody after a few…
No, they are in different cities. How can people not be into something like this? It’s my definition of paradise,…
At whose expense? I’d support summary execution in these cases as a financial expedient, or alternately, imprisonment in another, cheaper…
If she is Chinese then I believe it. But he is one of the people from the main Canadian office.…
Why is there even talk of deportation? This guy needs need spent a few decades in prison, then we can…
You guys are fun. At least things are happening.
Honestly, I don’t understand what objections people could have to this kind of a job. I think it’s the ideal…
“I didn’t mention any of this from the start because it’s not the point of my post” This is where…
“Gossip is very much alive only when the professors are dislikable enough to warrant gossip” Au contraire! Gossip is a…
Now who would feel the need to downvot this? These are scammers that bought r phoney qualifications to purchase equally…
Gossip is very much alive only when the professors are dislikable enough to warrant gossip. In the education department at…
And I didn’t mention any of this from the start because it’s not the point of my post. The point…
This is in Canada. Buying commercial real estate is impossible unless you are a billionaire. I know for a fact…
It bothers me that even non-woke white people use the word “white” as an insult. I understand the reasoning but…
I think this must be one of those cognitive dissonance things: it doesn’t make sense because the stated rules do…
Yes, and worse in Canada are the many, many thousands of “students” from the the Indian Subcontinent complete with purchased…
Agreed, and I really should have used AWFL, or even a Karen ;-D
“like Cliff, also thought the wife would be Russian” My first thought was East Asian… but yeah, ime russian women…
Kid, men measure, this is a matter of percentages. Frankly, I doubt there was ever a need for any female…
“Nobody sits in the same office together. That type of workplace is fast fading away” So part of the reason…
As I said, these are people who are all in different countries. Several of them are in Ukraine. Everybody works…
As I said, these are people who are all in different countries. Several of them are in Ukraine. Everybody works…
I, like Cliff, also thought the wife would be Russian. The Russian women I meet in my parish church tend…
It’s coming.
I just find the whole set up odd. Usually, when people travel for work (conferences, client meetings etc), the point…
A great link, thank you. I really liked this: “The crackdown is working. “As of March,” the article reported, “U.S.…
It now has teeth, using existing law. Scroll to the second story, here: https://www.coffeeandcovid.com/p/nato-froze-over-saturday-september “Cough up the black pill. Whenever…
It’s really weird. It’s one of those things where I feel an unbridgeable gap between myself and other people.
This is a brilliant measure. It eliminates the use of H-1Bs as a way to bring in cheap exploitable labor,…
In related news: https://spectrum.ieee.org/h-1b-visa-us-government If true, the new H1B fees are actually making a difference! “In fact, most companies that…
“heterogenous and homogenous ” I hope they didn’t leave it at that…. don’t the children need to know about bigenous and…
And yet, the alternative is a long-term usually acrimonious relationship with the hostile ex. Women seem to universally prefer that.
True but I don’t know any woman who’d like to have that close a relationship to her mother in law.
Title or it didn’t happen!
“Why is it always the whitey that is singled out?” It’s safer. No one gets upset at rhetorical attacks against…
Maybe the story isn’t landing because with “bonus points for guessing which country” it feels like an excuse to bait…
I’m bothered by this “liberal white women” thing. Have you met liberal black women? Or liberal Indian women? They are…
“What kind of a guy comes up with such a story when it’s completely emasculating?” Kid, do you really not…
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