Do you know what the first thing is people ask you when they suspect or find out you are pregnant?
No, it’s not “Is it a boy or a girl?” or “When is the due date?”
I wish.
No, the actual question people ask relentlessly is “Is it your first?” And if you pretend not to hear or change the subject, they persist.
And it’s not like you can say “no” and expect the discussion to end there. Because then people start asking “So where is your first child?” Answering “At the cemetery” is cruel but what can one do?
Of course, nobody is doing this to be hurtful but it’s still harsh.