The disciplinarian society is dead. Nobody cares what you do and how you live. People are trying to convince themselves that this is not the case. They keep repeating “society tells us to” even though society has gone away. They do it because they intuit that the end of the disciplinarian society is a disaster for most.
There are people, a minority, who don’t need an externally imposed structure because they created an internal one. They moved the disciplinarian inside. They live within a severe moral code that is internally sustained. They have their schedules, routines, and a rigid carcass of self-imposed limitations.
Most, however, are incapable of placing the raging desires that are the lot of every human into a cage and policing it daily. Without external sources of discipline, they get addicted to screens, become decision-averse, and perceive any limitation on satisfying each passing whim as crushing. They look unwell, both physically and psychically. The name of their illness is freedom with which they only know how to harm themselves.
Schooling hasn’t caught up with these changes and is still preparing people for a disciplinarian society that is no longer there.