The first time in my life I had a conversation in Ukrainian was in January. I read a lot in the language in my teens, and I went to the Ukrainian theater with my Dad after the independence but I never spoke because there wasn’t anybody to speak with. And since 1998 I haven’t read either. A couple of years ago, when I wanted to publish in a Ukrainian journal, I couldn’t even begin to write. I wrote my article in English, and my Dad translated it for me. Now I speak fluently and wrote a 400-page book in the language since April.
People see the shiny part – a book, an interest from the publisher, a plan for another book. Nobody sees the grind. Even N asked me yesterday how come my sister and I are from the same family but I’m a lot more Ukrainianized and speak so well. I speak because I taught myself this year. I worked like a dog on it and I keep working on it.
It’s like this in everything. People say, “you are lucky, you have such a calm child.” Lucky, yeah. My kid inherited all of my sensory difficulties because why wouldn’t she? They have run in the family for generations. I’m working like an indentured servant since her birth to make it easier for her to process the inevitable sensory overload. Also, it’s really weird to see me as fortunate in the child-bearing department but that’s another issue. I’ve even heard “you are lucky you could give birth at 40 with no complications”. Well, let me tell you about complications because complications and I spent many years in each other’s company.
Everything is a grind. I’m not complaining, I like the grind. But nothing just happens. You work like a dog and then work some more. That’s life.