What Have You Done for Women Lately?

I love these posts from pseudo-feminists so much, I think I need to start collecting them. Here is one I just found:

When men call themselves feminists, my suspicious are automatically raised. A lot of times “I’m a feminist” is shorthand for “I’m not an asshole.” Not being an asshole should be the default and not something you get a cookie for. It’s okay to ask, “Really, what have you done for women lately?”

‘Cause, you know, women need stuff done for them. Feminists are people who “do something for women.” I just wonder what the blogger who came up with this litmus tests for feminists has “done for women lately.” Legalized female voting rights? Passed Roe versus Wade? Single-handedly destroyed the gender binary?

Do you remember the definition of pharisees? “For they bind heavy burdens, hard to bear, and lay them on men’s shoulders; but they themselves will not move them with one of their fingers.”

So in order to avoid transforming all feminists into pharisees, I suggest that every person (irrespective of gender, because that is kind of the feminist goal par excellence, to make gender irrelevant) who claims to be a feminist provide us a list with what they “have done for women lately.” And I mean, lately. Ten or twenty years ago doesn’t count. You need to have a recent and documented record of doing things for women.

Of course, I have to recognize that I’m definitely not a feminist according to this definition because I can’t claim I have done anything as huge as to benefit all women, lately, recently or ever. But then who can?

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28 thoughts on “What Have You Done for Women Lately?”

  1. What have I done for women lately?

    Opened doors, given up my seat on the bus, stood aside to let them enter a room first. All that good paternalist, not to say patriarchal stuff. Pseudo-feminist indeed!

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    1. Jennifer Frances Armstrong :The pseudos are involved in consciousness razing.

      D’oh! 😀

      I you are a man and you aren’t feeding me and my sisters grapes and wine or bearing us down the street in silk-curtained litters then you are not a feminist and you can just go suck it neener neener.

      Jesus Christ that OP link. Nobody sane thinks Hugo Schwyzer is the goddamn messiah of male feminists. Quit holding him up like he’s the fucking standard.

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      1. I’m yet to figure out what this wave of obsession with Hugo is. I think my posts are way more fun than his, yet nobody is spending weeks analyzing every aspect of my life and poring over my ancient posts. Tonight, I even had a dream that I tried to kill Hugo’s girlfriend and still nobody cared.

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  2. You know feminists like that that are whining about things like this only have other feminists to blame for this “problem” of men calling themselves feminists when they haven’t really “done anything for women”. Maybe if feminists weren’t running around declaring who is and who is not a feminist (because how many of us haven’t one make a declaration similar to, “If you believe in equality then you’re a feminist!”).

    If they weren’t trying to make the label to broad in order to claim that damn near anything that can be considered is feminist they would probably not have this problem.

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  3. It gets worse. I had someone yelling at me in an extremely hysterical tone, on Facebook last night, because they imagined that an ironic statement of mine would reopen the doors of colonial invasion into Africa. Didn’t I have any sympathy with the people of Congo at all? If I did, I surely would not be opening the floodgates for everybody in the world to invade Africa anew.

    I find people often are remarkably stupid. After all, I have done a lot for women and for Africa, but ironic statements on Facebook are still considered deadly.

    https://www.facebook.com/pages/Break-Free-Self-Defence-School-Zimbabwe/164105092768?sk=videos

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  4. If you want to make a difference in the world-and not just look like you’re making a difference, writing a blog is not the way to do it. A small cash donation to an efficient charity will do more good than a thousand blog posts.A $5.63 donation to Against Malaria Foundation can provide an insecticide net to protect a family from malaria. One average, Against Malaria Foundation can save one life per $2000 in donations. Meanwhile, a feminist website just spent $4300 on a makeover.

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    1. I actually think I do make a difference with my blog. Several people tell me I do. As for charities, I know two people who are getting 250K+ salaries as charity managers, which kind of makes me suspicious of the entire concept.

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      1. You probably are making a difference. But have you saved anyone’s life with this blog? I’m not trying to moralize here (because I donate very little). But I have a hard time believing that a blog can make as much difference as giving nets.

        There are no doubt inefficient charities, but the efficient ones do so much good for the dollar that it’s hard to justify giving money to anything else. Givewell.org evaluates charities and ranks them by how much good they do for the dollar.

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      2. Easter Seals Disability Services is great. Extremely low overhead so most of the cash flow goes straight to people who need it. They also have programs to help former prison inmates get back to work, and resell the donated clothes and other goods through Savers thrift stores, which were about all that saved the world from my public nudity for a couple rough years. 🙂

        All you have to do is find a bin with the ES lily on it and put your unused but still wearable clothes [clean please!!] in there, or go to a donation site and drop off old [working! usable!] appliances and furniture. Someone who otherwise wouldn’t be able to afford a sofa or a kitchen table or a winter coat – or who needs special education services or child care or leukemia treatment or just a job – will be so very happy you did.

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    2. This blog profoundly changed how I view many things, particularly feminism. Now I argue with friends telling them how misogyny unfairly places everyone in boxes, whereas before I bought into evolutionary psychology and had no idea that gender stereotypes might not be based on anything important, and I thought feminism equated hatred of men – which in all honesty after a long look in the mirror (largely thanks to this blog) I realized I regularly engaged in.

      The written word is a powerful, powerful tool. I’d say it is much more effective than continuously throwing money at a problem.

      I also take issue with your ‘makeover’ claim. I’m not sure what kind of makeover you meant, but if it is not a charitable organization, then of course they spent the money on something they regarded as useful. It is not necessarily in their mission to do that kind of thing – you’re comparing apples to oranges. Besides, whoever they bought the makeover from got a sale and can keep his/her business open because of customers like the website. It is not everyone’s goal 100% of the time to save the lives of others. If it were, we would all have a dismal quality of life. At some point quality of life is more important than quantity of life.

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      1. “I’m not sure what kind of makeover you meant, but if it is not a charitable organization, then of course they spent the money on something they regarded as useful.”

        I was referring to thefword.org’s redesign.

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  5. Is this Hugo Schwyzer guy for real? Did he really try to murder his partner or does he say these things to gain publicity? I have read some of his posts, and they all seemed rather pointless to me. I mean of course one should be a good man, and not abuse women, even if said man is not very educated about feminism.

    And of course if men can’t be feminists or care about women’s rights, then the middle class shouldn’t care about worker’s rights either, well-paid university academics shouldn’t be Marxists, people who are not zookeepers shouldn’t care about ethical treatment of animals, and the idea of empathy should be promptly hit for a homerun.

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    1. “And of course if men can’t be feminists or care about women’s rights, then the middle class shouldn’t care about worker’s rights either, well-paid university academics shouldn’t be Marxists, people who are not zookeepers shouldn’t care about ethical treatment of animals, and the idea of empathy should be promptly hit for a homerun.”

      – BRILLIANT!!!

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  6. “Really, what have you done for women lately?”

    There really aren’t many organized options for a male feminist nowadays. So what do I do for gender equality? Make sure there are female candidates when interviewing. Push back old patriarchs when they use different standards to evaluate women than men. Raise my hand when it comes to vote for family friendly policies in departmental meetings and speak up if people oppose it. Really what else can one do when there are so many demands for our time.

    What has she done for women lately, I wonder? (and no, posting pro-feminist rants in her echo-chamber does not count, I certainly don’t consider my participation in a blog part of my feminist “good deed of the day”).

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  7. You seem to have a problem with radical feminism. And that’s fine. You also seem to love to defend men in many of your posts. I take it you are hetersexual from some of your entries on your blog. There are all different types of feminists. Lesbian feminists/radfems/seperatist lesbian feminists etc. Just because you don’t agree with your radical sisters doesn’t mean you have to write posts that try and make them look bad for their radical/lesbian point of view. Aren’t we all in this together as women? Some feminists loathe men. So what? If the patriarchy really wanted to change it would. It is not budging to help make life easier for women–women are working for this with many men wanting us to “know our places” and not work towards liberation. Sounds like you desire a pat on the head from anon men! Good luck with that!

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    1. “You also seem to love to defend men in many of your posts.”

      – Defend men from what?? 🙂

      ” I take it you are hetersexual from some of your entries on your blog. ‘

      – I have been analyzing texts for a living for years, but a “hetersexual” blog entry is something very new to me. 🙂

      “Just because you don’t agree with your radical sisters doesn’t mean you have to write posts that try and make them look bad for their radical/lesbian point of view.”

      – Buddy, are you on crack? I only have one sister, and she is way smarter than you. I don’t HAVE to write any posts. Everything I write is written because I want to.

      “Aren’t we all in this together as women? ”

      – In what? 🙂 🙂

      ” If the patriarchy really wanted to change it would.”

      – Patriarchy is not a wanting agency. It isn’t human. Have you tried reading a book or two?

      ” It is not budging to help make life easier for women–women are working for this with many men wanting us to “know our places” and not work towards liberation.”

      – In a serious vein, you, as every radfem I have ever encountered, hate women. Your hatred makes you say these incredibly offensive things about women. I’m sure, though, you have no idea that the quoted sentence degrades and belittles women, though. You so lack in self-awareness that you don’t even see that you say exactly what the proponents of the patriarchy have been saying for centuries.

      “Sounds like you desire a pat on the head from anon men!”

      – Are you trying to psychoanalyze me or something? 🙂 🙂

      You are hilarious.

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      1. Did you get discovered by a radfem blog, Clarissa? There seem to be a bunch of them commenting on older entries. Unless it’s the same one changing names.

        “your radical sisters”, indeed. I know they’re as much my sisters as the MGTOW guys are my brothers. There’s just the same amount of room in both these ideologies for people like you or me.

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  8. Why do you always seem to be so cynical about feminism? It sounds to me like you are sucking up to men with your “feminism.” That is a great question to ask men- “what have you done for women lately?” Most of them have not done anything positive. An overwhelmingly large percentage of men seem to love female genital mutilation in other countries/enforcing the taliban/forcing women to marry men/performing “corrective rape” in Africa/stoning women/rape/murder/date rape/patronizing women forced into prostitution and not caring/ruining society/sexually harrassing women/cheating/molesting kids etc. Shall I go on? If men really cared about us women then they’d stop all of this NOW. Why don’t you ask them why they do not. Put that on your blog! I dare you!

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    1. Genital mutilation is performed in the majority of cases by women on women. As for forced mariages, you stupid twat, I was forced to get married against my will. So before you begin with your stupid condescending pity towards victims of such practices, maybe try to listen to what we have to say. We are not a statistic to feed your hysteric rants. We are people.

      Fucking idiot.

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