Men and women react in different ways to the news of a pregnancy.
Clarissa: I’m pregnant.
A male friend, colleague, acquaintance: Oh, that’s amazing! Congratulations!
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Clarissa: I’m pregnant.
A female friend, colleague, acquaintance: Is this something you wanted?
Clarissa: Yes, this was planned.
A female friend, etc.: Oh, that’s amazing! Congratulations!
Yes. Right.
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That’s awesome. I wish we lived in a world in which each pregnancy was a source of joy, but as long as we don’t, I appreciate that people check to see what the situation is first. The poor men probably just feel too awkward about asking
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Clarissa and N are masters of their own decision, but I see more joy in non-pegnancy than in pregnancy.
“I appreciate that people check to see what the situation is first.”
Why asking this question to the mother? The mother will undergo abortion if she would not want the baby.
But except for uncommon cases (like Clarissa and N’s one), I always wonder if the father really wants this and why he wants this. It would be more interesting to ask this question to the mother.
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” I always wonder if the father really wants this and why he wants this”
– You can always ask your father why he wanted you. 🙂 Mine wanted me because life had no meaning yo him without me and because he had a lot of things to share.
“It would be more interesting to ask this question to the mother.”
– Ask the woman why the man wants something? Because he is mute? 🙂
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Sorry, I wanted to say “ask this question to the father”. This was a nonsense. I was a fucktard!
My father didn’t want me first but he saw that as a tool to “salvage” the couple, like the vast majority of fathers do (and this is ludicrous). But right now (and in fact, at birth) he doesn’t regret (I think he should regret it, and this is not something against myself) his decision, after all.
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My mother was very clear about it, and my father admitted it. In fact, they would not have any kid if they would take this decision today.
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” In fact, they would not have any kid if they would take this decision today.”
– If they actually said these words to you, I am very very sorry. Abusive, manipulating parents are the worst. You’ve got to understand, though, that such statements have nothing whatsoever to do with why they made any decisions in the past. This is nothing but a manipulative game.
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“In fact, they would not have any kid if they would take this decision today.” They did not say these words.
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Oh, good! Then stop scaring me! 🙂
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I would assume that men at work and/or social spheres assume you’re only telling them because you’re happy about it (that if you were looking for advice, or solace you’d seek out someone else) whereas women can imagine you might be looking for a long talk or advice or solace and need to make sure you’re not before congratulating you.
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The only men I know are scholars in the Humanities. They are not capable of such line of reasoning. 🙂 🙂
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Speaking of reactions, any reactions from relatives? You seem to have indicated over the long years of blogging that some might be fertility goddess worshippers…
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I’m with Cliff, if you tell a (non-close friend )guy you are pregnant the default assumption by the guy is that you are pleased with that state. Otherwise you would not say.
If you tell a woman, I can only assume from the reaction that there’s a whole world of different potential assumptions.
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