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Projection Rules

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And here is one more very cute example of projection:

Suppose the pay gap between men and women were magically eliminated. If that happened, simple arithmetic suggests that half of women would be unable to find what they regard as a suitable mate.

Obviously, I’m not saying women won’t date or marry a lower-earning men, only that they probably prefer not to. If a higher-earning man is not available, many women are more likely not to marry at all.

I really love it when people betray themselves and confess their darkest secrets as a result of projection. The poor lady practically screams, “I won’t have sex unless I get paid!” It’s too funny for words.

13 responses to “Projection Rules”

  1. musteryou Avatar
    musteryou

    She is wrong that somen would not get married if men did not earn enough. There are a lot of very high earning animals, like racehorses, of course, the women could marry. And if women earned as much as men, why, they could marry each other. Suitable — which is to say high earning — mates are everywhere you look around.

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    1. Z Avatar
      Z

      Hahaha! 😀

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  2. David Bellamy Avatar
    David Bellamy

    Why is this projection and not just observation of statistical facts?

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    1. Clarissa Avatar
      Clarissa

      What facts? I don’t see any facts, just a hypothetical of the “all women are whores” variety.

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    2. Z Avatar
      Z

      Or is it men who refuse to marry a higher earning woman?

      Anyway, I actually know a lot of couples where the woman earns more and it isn’t a problem.

      I do observe that if the match is within same or related fields, it is more likely for the man to feel competitive/resentful and reject women who earn more. But that same terrible high earning woman can still find men, either in very different field or in utterly different economic class … professors paired with manual workers, things like that, men who are smart and skilled at what they do, but don’t happen to be white collar.

      This may be more of an issue among serious conservatives, or other circles where traditional roles are enforced. But hardly everyone is like that.

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      1. el Avatar
        el

        I don’t see many professors being eager to marry manual workers. People usually marry within their own class for numerous important reasons.

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        1. Clarissa Avatar
          Clarissa

          I’m with Z on this. I have academic friends (women) who married a construction worker, a janitor, a barman, a waiter. These are all very happy marriages, long-lasting.

          I wouldn’t be able to do that but people are different.

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      2. Z Avatar
        Z

        Professors, I know women professors married to low-paid artists … mechanics … house husbands … IT guys … musicians …

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      3. delagar Avatar
        delagar

        Z is right. Most of the professors I know are not married to other professors. (Two-career academics are hard to manage these days.) Most of the professors I know are, in fact, married to people who work in blue collar jobs.

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  3. Shakti Avatar
    Shakti

    If magically the pay gap were eliminated, more men and women would find other ways of deciding who they want to date or marry.

    What an illogical train of thought.

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  4. el Avatar
    el

    // I have academic friends (women) who married a construction worker, a janitor, a barman, a waiter.

    What about men in academia? Do they marry janitors and waitresses too?

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    1. Clarissa Avatar
      Clarissa

      Women don’t have the social mandate to work at all costs because work doesn’t define female identity in patriarchal societies. In such cases, women don’t work at all.

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      1. el Avatar
        el

        I don’t understand. Do many male profs have a housewife at home, if before marriage she worked in a low paying job? Do you see many such couples around? Would a school teacher f.e. continue working despite very low salary, but a waitress – not, even if her salary was higher?

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