“My boss had arranged a meeting for us to visit a location that could potentially host a conference we are having. This is a big deal and she has reached out to all the heavy hitters of our fantastic metropolis to make sure that it is a relevant and informative affair. She did this herself along with many of the countless other things she does.
So here we are arriving at our destination. She parks her car and I exit the passenger side. We walk into the building and are expected to be greeted but no one is there so we have to call our contact (let’s call her Julie) to announce our arrival.
I explicitly tell the receptionist that my boss is here for her appointment. Not me. My boss.
Julie comes down the stairs and greets me first. She then begins by giving us a tour of the facilities. The entire time she’s walking and talking about the building, she’s looking at me for approval. I need to repeat that at no point did I ever contact Julia prior to this meeting. I don’t understand why she is constantly seeking my approval.
It’s at that moment that it clicked with me. She thinks I am in charge because I’m a man. This is silly. I decide to make a clear statement about our dynamic and make a little joke about how “The boss lady is the one with the wallet hahaha”. Julie’s eyes turn her attention to my boss. The rest of the meeting was fine and uneventful.”

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