Toxic Femininity

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Clarissa

October 6, 2015

The Oregon shooter’s mother filled his head with her outlandish ideas about guns, involved him in her obsession with firearms, took him to the range, taught him to shoot, surrounded him with guns, and channeled her rage through him.

And now he’s dead, together with several other people, while she’s alive, playing a victim, and free to look for another “toxic male” to channel her rage.

This is not only toxic, it’s highly effective. And has everybody hugely duped.

P.S. And the same process occurred in Adam Lanza’s conditioning into crime by his mother.

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13 responses to “Toxic Femininity”

Dreidel

October 6, 2015

You actually used the term “toxic femininity”???

I’m telling Melissa McEwan! 🙂

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1. Clarissa
  
  October 6, 2015
  
  What do you mean, “used”? I just invented it. Or if someone beat me to it, then I had no idea. 🙂
  
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Dreidel

October 6, 2015

“Used” simply means you typed the word into your post. It implies nothing toward the word’s origin. 🙂

But the term has been around for a while, discussed as a “serious” topic on virulently anti-feminist websites.

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1. Clarissa
  
  October 6, 2015
  
  It’s time we, the feminists, made it our own and filled it with meaning.
  
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matt

October 6, 2015

So I figured you would enjoy this clarissa. I still think you were wrong on the victim who tried to rationalize with the shooting by showing empathy to presumably save her life.

This, however, is much more crazy. https://kobi5.com/news/local-news/i-feel-sorry-for-him-shooting-victim-forgives-gunman-2347/

One of the victims who SURVIVED says she felt sorry for him. This is truly messed up. Figured you would appreciate at least the shout out to your opinion 🙂

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1. Barbara
  
  October 7, 2015
  
  She is probably still in shock and also on painkillers of one sort or another, neither of which encourages the clearest thinking. What is truly messed up I think is having people in hospital beds hounded by reporters looking for headlines that will sell papers: Victim feels sorry, forgives!
  
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Dreidel

October 7, 2015

Well, Matt, I’ve never figured out the rest of the world’s bedtime relative to the blood moon that always put us to sleep in Arizona — so I’ll give my two cents now, and Clarissa can speak up in the wee hours of the morning while Arizona time is still hidden behind the nightly eclipse that temporarily blocks e-mail contact.

This child, who was either shot in the leg (per the article) or the back (per the comments) is expected to make a full, if slow, recovery, and she has chosen to forgive her shooter, rather than waste energy hating him.

The swine who shot her is dead. And since she’s going to recover, why should she carry the excess baggage of hate, if she chooses to let it go?

If you choose to reply, I’ll see your response when the desert dawn rises at its own speed over the Valley of the Sun.

Goodnight. 🙂

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1. Clarissa
  
  October 7, 2015
  
  Choices don’t exist in a vacuum. People who live in a cultural environment that places a premium on forgiveness are much more likely to enact fake forgiveness to get the praise that comes with it.
  
  Then these people pay for mandatory forgiveness with a host of psychological problems but that’s the part nobody sees or cares about.
  
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2. el
  
  October 7, 2015
  
  \ The swine who shot her is dead. And since she’s going to recover, why should she carry the excess baggage of hate, if she chooses to let it go?
  
  What about (families of) victims of terror attacks? Are they culturally expected to say “I forgive” too?
  
  In Israel nobody would think to ask victims whether they forgive in the first place. And saying that one forgives Palestinian terrorists would be really weird. Don’t think manyIsraeli Jews would support such declarations, rather the opposite “this must-be -ultra-Left person lost his wits, blinded by his ideology.”
  
  Outside of terrorism, I haven’t heard this rhetoric too, but may be it exists somewhere in cases of private (not political) attacks.
  
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  1. Clarissa
    
    October 7, 2015
    
    In the US culture, an enormous premium is placed on being socially agreeable. And this is one of manifestations. This robotic repetition of “I forgive” is a formula of politeness like “Hi, how are you.”
    
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matt

October 7, 2015

Well its ironic since i started arguing a little different with clarissa as my comment demonstrates. I 100% get forgiving from a closure standpoint and moving on (although not sure you can really fully do that within a few days.. the whole grief cycle thing takes longer USUALLY if healthy), but forgiving is not the same as feeling sorry for. There are a few assholes / pieces of shit I have “forgiven” to move on with my life, but they are still pieces of shit who I don’t feel sorry for. To each there own, but I think its pretty skewed and unhealthy to feel sorry and all the implications that go with this. This guy and his mother are / were messed up, and they deserve the majority of the blame, not “societal factors”

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Shakti

October 7, 2015

But what about the fathers of such people?

Jindal also lashed out at the shooter’s father, who has called for gun control in the wake of his son’s rampage. “He’s a complete failure as a father, he should be embarrassed to even show his face in public,” Jindal wrote. “He’s the problem here.

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1. Clarissa
  
  October 7, 2015
  
  As much as I detest Jindal, in this particular situation I agree with him 100%. All of the folks who are disturbed by this statement of Jindal’s are traumatized by his assault on the patriarchy. Because that’s exactly what Jindal is doing here, and we all know how much I dig that.
  
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