It’s not OK to say aloud that a candidate for the position of Full Professor (tenured) of Spanish literature speaks Spanish at the level that would merit her a C in an Intermediate Spanish course.
It’s not OK to say aloud that an aspiring professor of foreign languages has a really bad speech impediment that makes everything she says entirely incomprehensible.
It’s not OK to say aloud that at the age of 65 is too old to start a tenure-track Assistant Professor position.
It’s not OK to say aloud that a candidate for the position of an instructor of dance has a bad limp that will prevent her from teaching the course she is hired to do.
It’s not OK to say aloud that another candidate for the position of an instructor of dance weighs 300 lbs and will be even worse at the job than the one with a limp.
It’s not OK to say aloud that a student should save time and money and drop a course he has no chance of passing because of his non-existent Spanish.
It’s laudable that people are trying not to be mean but we have long ago sacrificed sanity to the pursuit of this fake, dishonest kindness that, in reality, is nothing but self-serving indifference. In order to spare ourselves a couple of embarrassing or tense moments, we create untenable situations where many people suffer. But they can’t say it aloud, so it’s OK.