Cold Mothers

I just realized that I never had a relationship with a man who didn’t have a disinterested, distant, cold and cruel mother. I know why I chose them. I’m terrified of hovering mothers-in-law. I can’t even deal with the idea of it, so I run towards the exact opposite. But what do they see in me? I’m not distant, cold, or cruel but I’m not a nurturing woman. I don’t mother adult men.

I never met my mother-in-law. I saw her once on Skype and received one email from her once. That’s it. She’s never seen her granddaughter. She’s that indifferent. I feel bad for Klara and for N, but I myself, as a separate person, love it.

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4 thoughts on “Cold Mothers”

  1. . But what do they see in me? I’m not distant, cold, or cruel but I’m not a nurturing woman. I don’t mother adult men.

    In comparison you either seem warm and cuddly to these men or they are replicating a pattern they grew up with. My familial pattern is different.

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  2. I have never met my mother in law. My husband has not spoken to her since he was 16. I like it that way, but I also do not mother my partner as a matter of course.

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