I once was at a resort where they gave each guest a free token to go to the resort casino. I don’t get gambling but it was free, so I went. Put the token into a slot machine and pulled a lever. Suddenly, an avalanche of tokens started falling out. People who were nearby began to clap.
“Shit, I broke the damn thing,” I thought. “And now everybody is clapping to mock me.” I had self-esteem issues back then.
Of course, it turned out I had actually hit the jackpot and won. Beginner’s luck they call it. Bought a really pretty necklace at the resort gift store with the money.
It works like this with children, and that’s what makes child-rearing so enjoyable. For every tiny bit of love, caring and sweetness you put in, an avalanche of pleasure falls out into your life. It doesn’t work like this in any other aspect of life. In friendship, work, love, etc, you get what you put in. But with children you get a thousandfold return constantly. The only secret is that you need to start the whole process by putting in the token.