When I was consulting a psychologist about dealing with a relative who is a clinical narcissist, he said, “Every bit of praise, attention, and reinforcement makes a narcissist’s problem worse. Her personality is a deep, dark hole, and every time you give her attention, you make the hole deeper.”
I was thinking about this when I saw the footage of a “Pride event” at the White House. After the sniveling, gushing attention, praise and exaltation the invitees received from POTUS, they weren’t satisfied. To the contrary, they felt worse. Their need grew so big that they had to roll out their huge fake naked breasts and surgery scars and parade them right their at the WH.
The more you give to narcissists, the more deprived they feel. Attention, praise and kindness enrage them. Recognition and adulation make them rabid because every instance of praise is a reminder that it’s not working. The hole is still there.
Narcissists look to others to fill their inner emptiness. But it’s impossible. Their personality is the emptiness, the whole, the vacuum. Nothing is ever enough. To the contrary, more is less to them.
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