Clarissa's Blog

Men and men, and women are women. Women can have some male subjectivity traits but never a fully male subjectivity. The subjectivity is grounded in our biological reality. And that’s a good thing.

What you can change is the personality traits you don’t like. Shyness is a good example.

Also, everything has a positive and a negative side. For example, female subjectivity is rooted in the need for safety. This makes women more careful drivers. This makes them engage in violent situations a lot less than men. As a result, women in developed countries live longer than men. But on the negative side, the need for safety generates high anxiety.

Or take the female tendency that we recently discussed to see oneself through the eyes of others, often utterly imaginary others. It’s anxiety-producing but at the same time it gives you a much better social life and support network than men are usually able to create.

Thank you for a great Anonymous Question. I love them with a fiery passion.