No, she wouldn’t because if the mother is alive, she’s almost invariably present. The phenomenon of mothers abandoning their children is extremely rare. Male and female bonding is very different, and we create many broken families by denying this.
But the psychologist’s words offer an important insight. A mother who speaks badly of the father is a bad mother by definition. A mother who disrespects the father is a bad mother by definition. And so on.
I read the short article that was linked. She brings up mothers who are “around” but not particularly present or involved -preoccupied with their own lives and stress – who don’t really even know what their kids are up to. She says kids need their moms to want to be around them. And lack of time and interest are correlated to insecure attachame nt etc. that seems to be a valid point.
Amanda
That is true. An engaged, interested, caring mother is what a child needs.
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We need good mothers and we need good fathers.
We as in, we the society, as well as we individual children or offspring. Good fathers and mothers make good children.
As a high-school teacher I see the difference every day: the best students, morally and psychologically speaking, are invariably those with a good family behind them.
That’s my mom right there, she’s always talked trash about our father and her second husband, our brother’s father. Our dad was a quiet, reserved man who liked to read and watch sports on the weekends while she’s a social butterfly, they only got married because she was pregnant. Her second husband was a loser, but she talks trash about him in front of our brother, his son. She loves to bring up that Dad smoked marijuana and had long hair back in the 70s, as though he was a criminal but he stopped smoking before they met, I have no idea how they even started dating
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Rather surprised to see a psychologist openly mentioning that. The data have clearly shown that children need both parents for more than a generation, but too many psychologists, therapists, and social workers still seem to want to try to ignore reality.
Is that the result of feminist indoctrination during training, or just innate female biase, possibly simply altered social mores, or necessary adaptation to technological/economic changes, maybe all of the above. However, being raised in an era and an area where extended families still existed, I know that even the nuclear family is now at risk.
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