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The social media are abuzz with the story of a guy who “swiped right two million times and only got one date.” They analyze his looks, prescription eye glasses, hobbies, and personal hygiene.

The only thing nobody seems to notice is the platform where it all happened. The guy was looking for dates on Tinder, a casual hookup app. Casual hookups are not interesting to women. Exactly like Ashley Madison, the cheater app, Tinder is full of bots. Very few actual women go there. These apps monetize the male need to believe that there are women who are men with vaginas.

Any woman, even if she’s massively obese, has very hairy legs or lacks an eye, meets much more demand for casual sex than she can possibly want. Women don’t need to make efforts to find casual sex. They need to make efforts to avoid it. A single woman’s entire life is fielding unnecessary, annoying offers.

We have all been brainwashed to the point that a well-meaning, nice dude wastes years of his life morosely swiping an app in hopes of finding something that doesn’t exist in nature. And there are no friends, family members or cultural products to tell him he’s chasing after a myth and it’s embarrassing.

18 responses to “Stop Swiping”

  1. cliff arroyo Avatar
    cliff arroyo

    “Casual hookups are not interesting to women.”

    And on the rare occasions they do just want a casual thing… they’re not going to be looking to a stable normie mid guy who fishes.

    Guy needs to start going to a church (even if he doesn’t believe) and/or look up ballroom dancing classes (even if the women there are older or married or whatever he’ll learn a lot about how to interact with the women he should be looking for.

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    1. methylethyl Avatar
      methylethyl

      I feel so validated.

      I have given these exact same recommendations to multiple single-and-looking-for-wives men in my life (go to church, dancing classes/meetups where men are always in short supply)… and nobody does it. Sigh.

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      1. Clarissa Avatar
        Clarissa

        If the method one uses provides zero desired results over millions of swipes, you’d think one would start doubting the validity of the method.

        The funny thing is that Tinderites actually expect to find beautiful women on Tinder. Why beautiful women would be desperate to point of seeking casual sex on Tinder is not a question that occurs to them.

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      2. oldcowboy3 Avatar
        oldcowboy3

        methylethyl

        “…where men are always in short supply…”

        Fortunately, some dances, particularly the more rural ones are still functioning. But we are getting urbanized, the city has decided that duplexes and triplexes are a good idea($$$taxes). So I don’t know if the neighborhood potluck dinners, music, and dances will continue, hope so. Most of the newcomers have learned to wave when they drive by, more women asked if they could get Holly and other wreath material last Christmas, and there considerable interest in grafting dwarf trees and starting cuttings this Spring.

        But for churches, many of the mainline Protestant ones have become increasingly contaminated with feminism. My late wife was raised deeply Christian, well read, and had trouble finding a pastor doctrinal comfortable. And men, well, male thought is no longer particularly welcome, and we know it. Expect an increase of families in the more orthodox Catholic churches ;-D

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  2. TomW Avatar
    TomW

    It’s also sort of amazing that he kept at it when it clearly wasn’t working. At the top it says he was on there for more than five years. I can’t imagine sticking with anything like that more than three or four months if I was getting no results from it.

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    1. Clarissa Avatar
      Clarissa

      He’s a fisherman. Their whole thing is standing around waiting for nothing. 😁😁😁

      I agree, though. If something is not working, there’s no virtue in persisting against all evidence.

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      1. oldcowboy3 Avatar
        oldcowboy3

        LOL, Kid, I do not doubt your commentary about his chance of finding an attractive woman seeking casual sex, the odds always were fairly slim, and far, far less chance of finding one that would openingly admit to it ;-D

        And, actually you have clearly never fished for your supper. He is holding a fairly large char, probably a Lake Trout; it takes both knowlege and skill to hook one, let alone land it on the light tackle shown behind him.

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  3. Demotrash Avatar
    Demotrash

    Many young people use Tinder like a normal dating app, tbh. It’s not really another Ashley Madison, though I do imagine an app like Hinge has a better gender ratio. All these are apps for rough for guys; apps really only work for gay men, nobody else should use them.

    That said, even assuming the best of Tinder, everyone’s still focusing on the wrong thing. This guy managed to get over 1000 chats, and only one led to a date. That indicates not a problem with his personal appearance, but his personality and conversation skills.

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    1. cliff arroyo Avatar
      cliff arroyo

      “not a problem with his personal appearance, but his personality and conversation skills.”

      That’s another bit of advice for lonely men. Learn how to carry on a fucking conversation!

      I bet he either he stammers and hems and haws all over the place or has unfortunate verbal tics or maybe the most common guy affliction: Can talk articulately for hours about something no one else is interested in (in his case maybe the finer points of catching some kind of fish no sane person in the world cares about).

      He should join Toastmasters International or find some kind of debate club. There really need to be organizations or courses on how to carry on conversations, cause lots of youg men need to know…

      Hack: Find a good interviewer (I’m out of date so I’m not sure who that would be) and manually transcribe an interview. Writing by hand on paper helps the brain create connections that nothing esle does AFAIK.

      And… somebody get the golden advice her to him. Guy is drowning and we’re too far from shore to throw the life preserver.

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      1. Demotrash Avatar
        Demotrash

        This guy hasn’t even gotten to the point of an in person conversation with these women. Even a stuttering mess might get farther than he did.

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      2. oldcowboy3 Avatar
        oldcowboy3

        “…the most common guy affliction: Can talk articulately for hours about something no one else is interested in (in his case maybe the finer points of catching some kind of fish no sane person in the world cares about).”

        Hey, I resemble that remark ;-D

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        1. cliff arroyo Avatar
          cliff arroyo

          “Hey, I resemble that remark”

          How do you think I know about it….

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    2. TomW Avatar
      TomW

      I’m not sure how revealing that number is about his personality. Dating sites are full of scam artists looking for marks, and a substantial percentage of those chats wouldn’t have been from real people.

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      1. methylethyl Avatar
        methylethyl

        …in which case the real game is figuring out how to beat the auto-search features.

        But really: go out, become a contributing member of one or more IRL communities. Meet people. 1000x better odds.

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      2. Demotrash Avatar
        Demotrash

        Even if we assume 50% are bots and scammers (which in the experiences of my male friends who use tinder would definitely be an overestimate), that leaves over 500 real women who were willing to talk to this guy and lost interest.

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        1. Clarissa Avatar
          Clarissa

          A man who wants to meet women on dating apps needs to be very clear on which of the following 3 things he’s offering:

          Marriage
          Expensive dates and gifts
          Social prestige.

          Unless he has figured it out and knows how to make it very clear which of the 3 he’s offering, he shouldn’t be on dating apps. He’ll be very miserable and disappointed.

          He can still meet somebody great in RL, though. Once chemistry and attraction switch on, you don’t need the 3 points I listed.

          I know Demotrash is the last dude to need this info but maybe we have male readers who’ll benefit.

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          1. Demotrash Avatar
            Demotrash

            What a man who wants to meet men on dating apps needs: a pulse (possibly negotiable)

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            1. Clarissa Avatar
              Clarissa

              Exactly. And that’s the mistake the fisherman dude is making. He thinks women are men with different body parts. Maybe he needs to start looking in the trans community.

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